Tuesday, September 23, 2008

First Magazine wants your "intimacy challenge" story

A journalist from the national women's magazine FIRST (4.6 million readers) is seeking mature, married women to profile in a new true-stories health department called "Private Confidence." Here, women will share their candid stories about how they overcame/handled perimenopausal or menopausal intimacy challenges to eventually improve their sex life and their relationship. (Possible examples: vaginal, low libido, chronic back pain, chronic constipation, a spouse's ED...)

If you're interested and you'll be willing to discuss your intimacy challenge, please email me a brief summary, along with your name, email, and phone number, and I'll pass it along to the writer, Lisa Maxbauer. Take a look at FIRST at your local grocery store if you're not familiar with it and aren't sure whether you're a fit.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Elder Sex Romps in German Film

I hope Wolke 9 (Cloud 9) comes to a movie theater near me soon. It's a German film about a wild sexual affair between Inge, a married woman in her sixties, and Karl, a 74-year-old man who hires Inge to tailor his trousers and then seduces her on the living room floor. Inge also has less passionate sex with her husband of 30 years in the film.

From the photos I've seen, the cast is quite ordinary looking -- no face-lifts, liposuction, or dashing looks here -- and I find this refreshing. Imagine, realistic, illicit sexual romping with wrinkles, sags, and cellulite! You can tell we're not in Hollywood.

"Of course it was important to me to show that old people don't just go on bus tours and boat cruises and buy warm blankets," director Andreas Dresen told a German newspaper. No need for warm blankets in this film, from the sizzling reviewsI've read!

Read more about Wolke 9 here, and if you've seen it, please post a comment. Does the film have emotional depth?

9/12/08 update: Here's another interesting review from ABC News in Australia. The reviewer says, in part,
The rare, liver spots-and-all depiction of elderly lovers in the first blush of infatuation has electrified German critics and drawn blanket coverage in the country's culture pages.

What is sensational about the film is that it features on-top-of-the-covers sex between a sexagenarian grandmother and the 76-year-old object of her affection, as well as between the woman and her husband of 30 years.

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Dreaming of Robert

Last night I dreamed of Robert for the first time since he died. I had wished to dream of him, to see him again.

In my dream, I was sleeping and woke to find his naked body -- strong, no back fractures -- beside me. I sidled into his embrace, inhaling his scent (which I always loved, and which was vividly real in the dream!). Oh, he's just been away on a trip! I thought, trying to make sense of his beautiful body beside me.

Suddenly I started to sob to him, "I can't bear being apart from you! Let's stay together for the rest of our lives!"

"Yes," he answered quietly.

I looked into his dear face. He was gazing at me intently, lovingly.

"But how did you get here?" I asked him, suddenly thinking that our house was a long way from the airport. "I have your car!"

He looked at me puzzled and perhaps amused. Then he started to fade away and I woke up.

(photos by Robert's son, Mitch Rice)

Sunday, September 07, 2008

US News & World Report: "Love lives keep getting longer and better"

Deborah Kotz writes about senior sex in this week's US News & World Report: "Making the Most of the New Sexual Revolution: Love lives keep getting longer and better. Yours can, too."

"'Comedian George Burns once cracked that "sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope,' Kotz begins. "Clearly, he was speaking for his own generation."

Contrast George Burns with Ernest Borgnine and you'll see the difference. Of course it's not just generational -- every person ages differently and his or her sexuality also ages uniquely -- but there certainly is a new attitude (hurrah!) about talking out loud about elder sexual feelings and activities.

The US News & World Report article cites recent statistics about the percentage of the aging population still enjoying sex, the brain chemicals that act like happy pills when we have sex, and, of course, the physical challenges to a good sex love in later years. Good article -- check it out.

FYI, Kotz interviewed me at length for this article and one sentence survived the editing process:

Joan Price, the 64-year-old author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty, says that she had the best sex of her life after meeting her late husband seven years ago. "He saw me as beautiful, and I thought, if he thinks
it, it must be so."

(That's not really the point I made, but I'll let it stand.)

Ernest Borgnine, 91: "I masturbate a lot!"

Ernest Borgnine, 91, the movie actor with 60 years of experience and 199 films under his belt, told Fox TV about something else under his belt. When asked about the secret to his youthful appearance and vigor, he said, "I masturbate a lot!" You can see this clip on YouTube -- the whole interview or just the spicy section.

Borgnine appeared on Fox TV to promote his new book, Ernie: The Autobiography -- and it must be working, because his Amazon ranking is quite high!