Friday, August 04, 2006

Novel Request

I love that we now have a wealth of nonfiction books about aging and sexuality. It seems we're finally digging our way out of the pile of old misconceptions. Besides my book, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, authors like Gail Sheehy, Jane Juska, Dr. Ruth, Susan Swartz, and many others have written guidebooks, memoir, and commentary about what it's like for the Boomer generation -- who practically invented sex, after all! -- to grow older and stay vital.

I remember that when Gloria Steinem turned 40, a reporter said to her, "You don't look forty." She replied, "This is what 40 looks like!"

Now we're saying to a society that still worships youth, "This is what 50, 60, 70, 80 looks like and feels like!" And we're recording our experiences and thoughts candidly in writing.

But are we only doing it in nonfiction? Where are the contemporary novels featuring realistic, modern, full-dimensional, introspective, sexy protagonists in their later years? If you know any, please recommend some authors and titles, and please tell us what you like about these books! (Either post a comment here, or email me your comment and I'll post it for you.)




  1. Usually when I read something like It. I'm in the middle of doing about 20 other things
    and don't get the time to site down and digest just what the author is saying. Lots of great insight and info here - thank you Joan Price.


  2. Here's a possibility:

    I had to go back into my email archives, but I remember an author who was going to be in our area for a short time offering to speak to our group. Her novel was "chick lit" but for the more mature chick.

    Haven't read it, so I can't vouch personally but it might be what you are looking for. What I found most interesting was on her Interview section of her website was this:


    My memoir/cookbook “Let Us Eat Cake: Adventures in Food and Friendship” was published by ReganBooks/HarperCollins in 2002. When I wrote “Cookin’ for Love"—the original title was “Cooking for Love,” with a “g"—I assumed I could get it published by a regular publishing house. But they all said the same thing: They loved the story, the characters, and the writing, but they thought the two heroines were too old. Old? I had made the two heroines 49, though when my friend and I went to Malaysia we were closer to 60. The publishers said there was no market for a novel about middle-aged women going on an adventure. I didn’t believe it. So I did some research on line and found iUniverse, a print-on-demand company that will publish your book—it only cost me $695—and then people can order it from iUniverse,, or

    The first weekend the book was available—it was on before Amazon—I sent out emails to all the women I knew and had met while on tour for “Let Us Eat Cake,” saying, “Who Says Women Over 40 Are Too Old for Adventure, Romance, and Sex?” They spread the word. So many women bought the book on, the first weekend it shot up to a sales ranking of 23. The CEO of iUniverse, Susan Driscoll read the book, loved it, and totally got behind it. “Cooking” sold so well that iUniverse decided to publish it as “Cookin’ for Love” under their iUniverse Star imprint, which is like a traditional publisher—they publish several thousand books at once and sell them in regular book stores. I’m thrilled, of course, that iUniverse saw the potential in “Cookin’” and was so amazingly supportive."



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