tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post7815569731889022778..comments2023-07-20T03:25:34.929-07:00Comments on Naked at Our Age - Joan Price - Sex & Aging Views & News: Practically Sexless Marriage? Laurie Watson AdvisesJoan Pricehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06423337694076541862noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post-32206477014668747712013-01-22T15:42:31.271-08:002013-01-22T15:42:31.271-08:00David Pittle, great advice. Can you explain what R...David Pittle, great advice. Can you explain what REBT and CBT are? (Thanks to one of my Ageless Erotica writers, I know what CBT means in the kink world, but I know that's not what you mean here!)Joan Pricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06423337694076541862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post-89752600901428261752013-01-22T14:09:46.095-08:002013-01-22T14:09:46.095-08:00Depression may be key. People go through life with...Depression may be key. People go through life with a low level of depression. It doesn't keep them from their work; it doesn't keep them from housecleaning; it may not even keep them from going to a party. But it may keep the person from enjoying the party, from enjoying the house, but especially from sex.<br /><br />Find a good therapist trained in REBT or CBT to help Angie's depression. (Don't accept medication as the answer. That may even exacerbate the sexual problem.) But raising the cloud of depression will not necessarily solve the sex problem. Both of you have very many years of sexual habit to change. You also need a good sex therapist to help both you and your wife. (Otherwise excellent psychotherapists may not be trained in sexology.)<br /><br />Don't put up with your ED. There are good solutions now, even for men who have had prostatectomies. Ask you urologist about penile implants. They need simple, minor--often outpatient--surgery today with excellent results.<br /> <br />David Pittle, Ph.D.http://www.turningspirit.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post-42152430213681245022013-01-21T21:45:34.564-08:002013-01-21T21:45:34.564-08:00That's a particularly great blog post, Joan. B...That's a particularly great blog post, Joan. Both the query and the response were so articulate, thoughtful and comprehensive.Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post-28697797602810200902013-01-21T17:29:12.549-08:002013-01-21T17:29:12.549-08:00My husband and I had a nearly sexless marriage for...My husband and I had a nearly sexless marriage for about 10 years. He was insensitive as I struggled with menopause. I became angry and aloof. One day I found a message on his phone and after further research found pics of a prostitute he'd been seeing for several years once a month. We nearly divorced, but after taking a bit of time I realized he was a good man and he realized he still loved me. Lots of therapy later we are good. We have a 22 yR. Old back at home and we get a room for the day at a spa or a hotel room at a casino. I have a vibrator which I just became pals with and my husband is fine with that, he is getting more sex and I am getting reacquainted with my own body. It is worth it. Show my post to your wife, get busy. The kids need to get jobs or hobbies, no wonder she's depressed! MarjiB60https://www.blogger.com/profile/00343905980167339680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17568814.post-60565665020156244772013-01-21T15:40:41.136-08:002013-01-21T15:40:41.136-08:00To Mr. Running Out of Time:
From a guy friend--M65...To Mr. Running Out of Time:<br />From a guy friend--M65-- I'd say, stop being Mr. Nice Guy. Your wife needs to let you have a girlfriend if she's not willing to deal with your situation. At least have the kids pay for you to get a happy ending massage each week. Or have the kids pay the weekly motel bill with hot tub or kick them out. I love my 3 kids but I'd buy 'em a sleeping bag and show 'em a freeway overpass. You deserve a sexual connection my man. Fight for it. I walked from a 28 yr. marriage after trying everything-that would be E-V-E-R-Y thing for the last 10 years. And my kids now thank me for the divorce/remarriage. Oh, you are right about running out of time. And you are a fool if you let that happen. God gave you desire for a reason. Don't sell it out. Or you. You are worth it.Dannoreply@blogger.com