Friday, December 28, 2018

Best of 2018 Sex Toy Round-Up



So what if gift-giving celebrations have ended. It's always a holiday when you bring new sex toys into the world of your sexual pleasure, partnered or solo. Here are my favorites of 2018, with links to the reviews so you can learn more. Happy New Year, and may you enjoy many vibrations in 2019.


Fun Factory Sex Toys: The fabulous folks at Fun Factory sent me a box of toys, and I review them all here. My three favorites: Volta, one of the most versatile and pleasurable external vibrators ever; Patchy Paul, a slim penetrative vibrator; and Cobra Libre II, a vibrator that my penis-owning reviewer loved. Notice the 10% discount code at the bottom of the review!


* We-Vibe Touch. The We-Vibe Touch has become my favorite travel vibrator. It's tiny, weighs almost nothing, yet it's powerful and versatile, and the design is so smart. See why I love to pack it in my carry-on suitcase.


* Le Wand Petite. Sleek and ergonomic, this lightweight wand delivers surprisingly powerful vibrations while weighing less than 8 ounces. Not the strength of a Magic Wand, but if you don't need that intensity, it's terrific.


* Pocket Pulse. A smaller, modified version of the Pulse "guybrator" from Hot Octopuss that my 74-year-old penis-owning reviewer likes even better than the bigger, more expensive models. We love the Pulse because an erection is not required for use or receiving full pleasure.


* Atom Plus. This vibrating cock ring from Hot Octopuss surrounds penis and scrotum and helps keep erections strong while also stimulating the perineum, that nerve-dense area between the genitals and the anus. My reviewer describes his happy experience.


* We-Vibe Discover Gift Box. The gift that keeps on giving has 10 individually boxed items from vibrators to blindfolds. Follow me as I open each box and describe its contents.


The original reviews I've linked to in this round-up also include links to order from retailers that I endorse who support my mission to educate about senior sex. These are retailers who care about our sexual health as well as our sexual pleasure, and they stand for our right to remain sexual beings lifelong. Please support them, because they support us.

You don't have to stick to the newest 2018 sex toys for your trips to paradise. Do check out older sex toy reviews on this blog. (Keep scrolling down, then click "older posts" when you reach the bottom -- there are 135 reviews at the time of this writing!)

For a visual tour and hands-on (not genitals-on) demos of the favorites in this photo, view my webinar, Sex Toys for Seniors. My newsletter subscribers get special prices to view my recorded 90-minute webinars, so please subscribe here so you don't miss any news or special offers.

Monday, December 10, 2018

Perfect Strangers by Dorothy Freed


Dorothy Freed's Perfect Strangers: A Memoir of the Swinging Seventies is both one woman's personal story and the story of an era: the mid-1970s in San Francisco. Freed divorces a husband who cheated on her with her best friend and called her a "frigid bitch" because she didn't have vaginal orgasms. She goes on to explore her sexuality with whomever she chooses during 4 years of self-described "wanton promiscuity." She has plenty of sex with plenty of men, yes. But orgasms? Not so easy. 

Whether you had a wild side in the 1970s, or you still do, or you didn't, but wonder what that was like, Freed's memoir is honest and insightful. She navigates not only hook-ups, but her sense of self as she searches to define her sexuality in her own way -- not what her era taught or her ex-husband demanded.

Now 73, Freed looks back at this time of her life with candor and the perspective of a woman who gained much life wisdom and self-knowledge (and many orgasms) since that time. I asked Dorothy a few questions:

JP: What made you want to put this memoir into the world at this point, 40 years later?
Dorothy Freed then

DF: 1974 to 1978 was a seminal period in my life. For the first time, I was in charge of myself and my two sons. I loaded us in the station wagon, sat in the driver's seat, and drove us across country to start over. Later, when I examined how much I'd learned about myself in that four year span of time, I realized my story was a memoir of the swinging '70s, with historical significance, and one that needed to be shared with a larger audience.

JP: What message do you want people of our age, particularly, to get from your memoir?

DF: My message is to look back on the '70s as an era of unprecedented personal freedom, a time before AIDS colored our sexual world-view in dark hues. By the end of the memoir, my erotic behavior changed, but not because of fear of disease. I changed it because I saw no future in it. What was missing from my life was love and affection from a male partner. To achieve that, I needed to back away from my casual sex lifestyle, and focus on earning my living by making and selling my artwork -- and being open to the possibility of meeting a suitable man.

Dorothy Freed now
JP: Any advice to people of our age about exploring their sexuality, whether or not they did it the way you did?

DF: If there's still a spark alive inside you, reach out to embrace the adventure.

JP: Do you have any regrets?

DF: No, I don't. Events unfolded as they should. The path I chose was right for me.



Saturday, December 08, 2018

We-Vibe Discover Gift Box




The We-Vibe Discover Gift Box is a holiday gift, and much more. It's easily months of sexy giving and receiving. This curated gift box contains these 10 items for your sexual pleasure:
  1. We-Vibe Lube made by pjur: Water-based, safe for use with silicone pleasure toys.
  2. Tickler: A "feather duster" for your tickly bits or all over your body.
  3. Tango by We-Vibe: External mini-vibe, with 8 levels and modes of stimulation. Use the flat side, the tip, or the edges, and take it in the shower or tub if you wish -- it's waterproof and rechargeable. It's made of hard plastic and transmits the vibrations very well.
  4. Sexy Dice: Sexy instructions and the body parts to use them on. Roll the dice and play.
  5. We-Vibe Couple's Vibrator: AAA battery-powered, budget-friendly version of We-Vibe's signature silicone couple's vibrator. Designed for one "arm"  worn in the vagina and the other over the clitoris during partner intercourse, it's also dandy for unpartnered self-pleasure if the fit feels right. This version isn't as strong as the rechargeable models. (Hint: If you have trouble removing the paper from the battery compartment, as I did, use tweezers.) 
  6. Kegel Ball: You don't have to go to the gym to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Insert the silicone ball in the vagina and slow squeeze - slow release for pelvic floor tone and, potentially, stronger orgasms. Silicone.
  7. Massage Candle: Sweet vanilla-scented candle, which releases massage oil. Of course you'll extinguish the fire and test the heat before you pour it over your partner, right?
  8. Womanizer Starlet: Small, travel-sized, rechargeable version of the Womanizer, which uses a delightful "pressurized air pulses" technology. Use it on the clitoris and/or any-gendered nipples. (See my reviews of my favorite Womanizers here and my half-hearted review of the Starlet here. Although it's not my favorite Womanizer, it will help you know whether you like the feeling enough to invest in a stronger model.) 
  9. Dusk by We-Vibe: Silicone anal plug, marketed as a "beginner's butt plug" because it's smaller than most and tapered for easy insertion. It doesn't vibrate on its own, but the base is tube-
    Dusk + Tango
    shaped so you can pair it with the Tango to add vibrations. You'll feel mild vibrations internally and stronger vibrations on the perineum, which the Tango will touch. 
  10. Silky Sash: Use it as a blindfold or a restraint, or come up with your own idea!
Each item is individually wrapped within its own gift box and comes with a card describing the item and how to use it. You might choose to play with these individually, or try them in combination. With such a large collection of possibilities, you'll easily find some favorites. Enjoy experimenting!

The We-Vibe Discover Gift Box is listed at $350 (ouch!), but it's selling now for $249 from We-Vibe. Still pricey, I know, but if it's within your budget for a special treat that keeps on giving, you'll find much to enjoy!

Thank you, We-Vibe, for gifting me the Discover Gift Box!