Sunday, May 04, 2014

May: Senior Sex Month + Masturbation month!

senior-sex-monthWhat a lovely coincidence! May is "International Masturbation Month," according to Good Vibrations. It's also "Senior Sex Month," thanks to Senior Planet, the senior site that advocates "aging with attitude" and is launching my new "Sex at Our Age" column this month. In this column, I'll answer reader questions about the realities and challenges of staying sexual in aging bodies.

I love that International Masturbation Month and Senior Sex Month happen at the same time. I propose that we combine the two! We're not all fortunate enough to be partnered at this time of our lives, and many of us who are in relationships are not having sex with our partners as much as we'd enjoy. Pleasuring ourselves is a way we can stay vigorously sexual, give ourselves wonderful jolts of joy, and enhance our health simultaneously.

Oh? You doubt that solo sex enhances health? Here are just a few of the benefits of sexual activity and orgasm with or without a partner that I list in The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life, coming soon from Cleis Press:

• Reduces stress
• Enhances mood
• Strengthens the immune system
• Helps fight infection and disease
• Lowers diastolic blood pressure
• Keeps sex organs healthy
• Improves blood flow
• Helps with sleep
• Relieves headaches and other body aches
• Relieves depression
• Reduces risk of heart disease
• Reduces risk of prostate cancer
• Relieves chronic pain
• Increases blood flow to the brain, increasing mental acuity
• Makes your skin glow
• Relaxes you
• Makes you happier
• Feels really good

Reasons not to self-pleasure? Hmm... Can't think of any.

And if you need an assist, check out the many dozens of sex toys I've reviewed from a senior perspective here -- keep scrolling down to "older posts" because there are about a hundred reviews. (Don't worry, you won't end up with a list of 100 toys to buy -- some of the products are horrid and you'll just laugh at those reviews. But the wonderful ones? Ah, your body will thank you for adding these to your sexual repertoire!)

My current fave, Palm Power 

3 comments:

  1. What a fabulous post! I have always felt some guilt both about masturbation and my method of masturbating (I hump a pillow in slippery soft ladies nylon panties), but haven't blogged about it - I did think of blogging about "wear testing" of briefs on an "over 18" blog though. The guilt is from childhood. I had no idea it was so good for you health-wise!

    It's wonderful learning that it's both Senior Sex month and Masturbation Month. I love the month of May as it is, and this should make it way more enjoyable. The list of "assists" should make interesting reading too. Thanks!

    http://www.full-brief-panties.blogspot.com/

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  2. Great post here!

    My wife and I had a discussion about going solo this morning. We have this last year each agreed to do solo sex at least weekly and talk about what we find about ourselves as to arousal. Findings?

    a) she can climax in 1 min.
    b) I can in 7 min
    c) together it takes us 3 to 4 times as long

    Not a clue what this means.

    Also, during the talk she reported about what aroused (and not so much) HER last lovemaking session. She complained some I denied her oral and went a little too quickly to penetration last time. I was rather shocked that cock sucking was a turn on FOR HER; that she did it FOR HER not just me. My my. What happens when couples wank alone and then talk about it all together later.
    ...
    As to this being the "Are You Doing Your Part?" week, do we get extra points that on our honeymoon we interviewed Carol Queen and Nina Hartley at the 2007 Masturbatathon in SF? All mid life couples do this on their honeymoon, no?

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  3. Joan you are a dear. And thanks to Smitten Kitten, too. We got Palm Power and what a difference. It has cut my wife's time by 50% to climax. Good that I've read a lot and am OK w/ her coming first or 2nd or later or before; or my dick would be jealous. It's not. Both of us don't always come during intercourse, even with the old vibrator. I think now with Palm Power things will change there.
    Your are helping folks in the sack: keep it up. I'll do the best to, to ah, well, keep my end up as well.

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