Monday, January 30, 2012
“Where are the reviews of sex toys for men?” you keep asking me.
My books and blog are not just for women – I’m happy that I have many male readers, and I’m thrilled when men as well as women fill the room at my talks and workshops. But how do I, a woman, review a sex toy for men?
Obviously, I do that by inviting a smart, articulate, candid, sex-positive man of our age to review it – a man like David Pittle.
I first met David when he attended one of my talks and introduced himself as a therapist in San Rafael, CA, saying that he has been buying copies of Naked at Our Age for his clients. Since then, he has attended several of my events, and we’ve had many lively and honest conversations about sex and aging. When he told me that the Hitachi Magic Wand is his favorite sex toy, I invited him to write a review from his male perspective. Lucky for us, he was happy to oblige. Here it is:
The Hitachi Magic Wand
reviewed by David M. Pittle, Ph.D.
Most sex toys are designed for either women or men. However, one wonderful item which is bisexual is the magnificent and venerable Hitachi Magic Wand.
The Magic Wand has been around for over 30 years in several constantly improving versions. The current Hitachi Magic Wand HV250R is a vibrator that can wake up your libido no matter how jaded you might be.
As we men get older, some of us have more difficulty getting a good erection. For many men that’s enough of a put-off that we quit trying. It can be embarrassing and disappointing. It is easy to begin to forget the joy of sex. But on a health level, getting off is important. A large, recent study, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (April 2004), showed that men who have an active sex life--twenty or more times per month--were about one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Of course sex for its own sake is worthwhile.
Why would men use a vibrator? “If I don’t have a partner, I always have the natural vibrator, my hand,” many men say. And while that is true, it’s like saying that just because I like spaghetti, I can’t also enjoy a baked potato with my meal. Variety is the spice of life and a good vibrator is very spicy indeed.
The Magic Wand is large, about 12.5 inches in length. It resembles nothing so much as an old World War I potato masher hand grenade. Like a hand grenade, when it goes off, it provides a very big bang. The business end is 2.25 inches across, with a shallow v-slot that will hold your penis even in its flaccid state, and keeps it captured as you get hard. With two different speeds—L(ow) provides a relatively gentle ride and H(igh) gives a powerful, “let’s get going now” experience—the Magic Wand handles all the needs for most men.
Doctors sometimes recommend the Magic Wand, ostensibly for massaging back and shoulder muscles. But that size makes it perfect for massaging a man’s testicles and perineum, the area between the anus and the testicles, an area which is very erotically sensitive.
Another nice feature is that the head is easy to clean, as every sex toy should be, though not immersible and not for use in the tub or shower. The Magic Wand is corded and must be plugged into a wall socket. It is perfectly safe electrically when used in bed or other dry environments, but obviously one would not use it in the water any more than a hair dryer.
One accessory that may be useful to some men, though I haven’t felt the need for it, is a variable speed controller. It can slow down the Magic Wand, if even the Low speed is too much, but I notice that reviews are generally not positive. If it isn’t needed, save the money and get a vibrator that is less intense.
I’ve tried a few of the sex toys specifically designed for men, but I always come back to my MagicWand!
David M. Pittle, Ph.D., is a therapist in San Rafael, CA, who has been helping people with sexual issues for over thirty years. Many of his clients are age 50-80, when good sex is important, and dissatisfaction may lead to loss of shared intimacy that can threaten the total relationship. David specializes in helping women who are not experiencing sexual satisfaction and men with non-medical and medically-related erectile dysfunction or other issues. Visit his website here.
Read Joan's review of the Magic Wand for women. You'll also find references to the Magic Wand in reviews of many other sex toys, because the Magic Wand's intensity is the gold standard!