Monday, January 04, 2010

Do you have a G-spot?

Do you have a G-spot? I do -- or at least I think so, a particularly sensitive spongy spot that, coupled with clitoral stimulation, helps take me to the moon. A recent British study says I probably don't have one, and if you don't think you do, don't worry about it.

Actually, I'm not worried. As Dr. Petra Boynton says in her astute blog post today that's as smart as it is entertaining -- "Where have all the g spots gone?":

It’s pretty simple. Women are diverse. Some of us really enjoy vaginal stimulation by finger, penis, sex toy (or other item). Some women prefer clitoral, anal, breast or other stimulation. Research that tells us we should focus exclusively on one spot or ignore it completely does little to reassure us or enhance our sex lives.

We're all different, and other than the brain and clitoris being our #1 and #2 pleasure organs (in that order), we all experience sexual pleasure a bit differently, sometimes a lot differently. Maybe, Boynton suggests, the G-spot has become the subject of so much media attention because "as any journalist will tell you it’s much easier to get a g spot past your editor than mention the clitoris."

In this study, "Genetic and environmental influences on self reported g spots in women: A twin study," soon to be published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,1875 women, aged 22-83 with a mean age of 55, answered questions about sex in a mailed questionnaire. Women were asked about their sexual practices and activity, and how frequently they experienced orgasm during intercourse and through masturbation.

The study used twins because, supposedly, if the G-spot is truly genetic, then both twins would report having one, which apparently did not happen. Does that mean they don't, though? I didn't get in touch  (so to speak) with mine, if indeed I do have one, until a digitally dexterous lover pointed it out (again, so to speak) to me. Did these twins share lovers?

I was surprised to learn that only the answers of heterosexual women who engaged in vaginal intercourse were counted -- why was that? 71 lesbian and bisexual women were excluded "because of the common use of digital stimulation among these women, which may bias the results." Wait a minute. Can't we learn the most about the elusive G-spot from women whose primary sexual expression is digital? I'm confused.

For me, the bottom line is this: Whether the G-spot exists or not, I hope you're enjoying yours!

Don't miss this spoof from the Daily Mash, MEN WHO CARE ABOUT THE G-SPOT ARE A MYTH, SAY EXPERTS.

Thank you, Dr. Petra Boynton -- researcher, sex educator, and "agony aunt" -- for your blog post that spurred mine, and for the diagram above.


  1. Great minds think alike. I blogged about this earlier today as well. You made some good points.

  2. I don't understand how they can it doesn't exist. I know that not all women seem to have it, but there's definitely a spot inside that is more sensitive than others by a long shot. Discovering it has been wonderful. So there, scientists!

  3. I know three ladies (in their late 50s and mid 60s) who have taught themselves to female ejaculate ( a beautiful sight) and all say their G spot is key to the heightened orgasmic bliss they feel when they female ejaculate.

    I believe there is one and am honored to have felt a few and helped increase my lover's pleasure by stimulating it for her.


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