Sunday, November 15, 2009

Becka, 70: 3 Men in Photo Finish for her Heart

Becka, our intrepid senior online dating reporter, has met several men now -- after rejecting far more. Three men seem to be in a photo finish for her heart, she tells us! Here's her latest report:

PHOTO FINISH -- PART 2
by Becka

I winnowed and winnowed trying to separate the wheat from the chaff and I didn't even know what chaff was until I read some of the self- descriptions guys put on dating sites. Leo wrote that he was looking for a “soulmate to love forever” and then mentioned that his dog had passed away and “no one can replace that void.” Next!

Alex, 5' 3” who makes less than $20,000 thought I should know that he “reads women's magazines to study the opposition.” Next!

Sammy carroled that he wanted “to be Gomez to your Morticia.” Next!

Here's the winner: said Donald of himself, “I am a smoker, earn under $12,000, drink a little, am passive and submissive and am looking for a woman who will finish the job my mother and sister started when I was a kid of turning me into a full female.” Neeeext!

You will learn an awful lot about yourself on this journey. Some things not so good; other things pretty damn good! I learned I liked a sense of humor but sometimes lacked one myself. It took a while for me to realize that Joe was joking when he wrote, “She must be breathing. If she's not breathing, the whole deal is off.” Joe became Date No. 1. He does make me laugh and helps me be less uptight.

I also learned I am more of a risk taker than I thought. When Bill would not give any additional information until I revealed something of myself, I complained. He wrote, “Aw, now, why wouldn't you want some mystery?” Bill became Date No. 2. We met the first time at a local diner and each of us wore something from Star Wars so we'd recognize the other. Okay, so now you know I'm a geek.

I like these men and intend to keep seeing them, but my favorite is Steve, Date No. 3. He is the one who offered to cook for me, massage my feet and “wander through the woods together armed only with a camera.” He suggested meeting at a hiking club event. I felt safe and knew I'd have a good time even if we didn't hit it off. Smart man!

There are fabulous times to be had with wonderful people! To pull this off you need two senses: “common” and “adventure.” “Sixth” doesn't hurt either. My three men are in a photo finish for my heart. My advice to you: get going!

Thank you, Becka, for sacrificing so much time in the pursuit of, uh, educating the rest of us! See Becka's other online dating reports here.

2 comments:

  1. AnonymousJuly 24, 2010

    Please don't leave us hanging! Is Becka still dating her 3 favorite men? Did they all wash out? Did one win her heart? Did yet another man enter the picture? Inquiring minds want to know!

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  2. When Becka last wrote me a few months ago, she was still with Steve!

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