Doug, a reader from the Philippines, wrote a comment that was so interesting and helpful that I'm excerpting it here so you won't miss what he said. Doug wrote,
I am 80 years young and have had ED (erectile dysfunction) all of my life. It has taken me a whole lifetime to come to the point of seeing sex but the tip of the relational iceberg.
Yes, I also know that we men are our penises and our penises are the man. This is a mental hang-up that we need to change.
Doug addresses a reader in an earlier post who wrote that her husband can no longer have erections and has given up on sex and communication. Doug says to this reader,
Until your husband can change the way that he sees his masculinity, he'll never really feel good about himself. He has eight penises on his hands and the best penis in his mouth. And that up close and personal penis can and does give my wife wonderful, body-shaking orgasms, one right after the other, that most penile intercourse cannot come close.
And best of all, my ego isn't lying on the ground of mental failure. It works for me and it can work for your hubby.
Doug, you've been most helpful to our readers here, and I thank you for sharing your perspective. Would you please contact me personally so I can invite you to be in my next book?