Friday, November 16, 2007

Julia from Alabama: “You can’t have my rights, I’m still using them!"

Julia Carter is a frequent reader of this blog. She offered to find out just how the new Alabama law prohibiting the sale of sex toys affects a woman intent on buying one. So she visited two Alabama shops specializing in items for erotic pleasure (see? I'm resisting calling them "sex-toy shops" because such products are against the law) to investigate on behalf of all Alabamans seeking sexual freedom. Here's her report:

As it says in Marty Klein’s excellent article, the Alabama legislature has recently passed a law prohibiting the sale of sex toys in this state. Wanting to find out first hand what this actually means to local consumers, I decided to stop in at one of our stores.

I visited a shop called “Pleasures” for two reasons, one is they have the most extensive selection of any retail store in this area, the other being that the owner of this shop, Sherri Williams, challenged the proposed law in court, filing numerous appeals against the state, including an appeal to the Supreme Court. Unfortunately the courts refused to hear her last appeal, so it is now illegal to sell sex toys or dildos in the state of Alabama.

I was immediately greeted by a nice young woman, who then asked to see my ID. “Hmm,” I thought, “I’m 55 and I’m being carded, this is cool,” although I’m sure this is standard procedure for everyone who comes in to the shop. You must be 18 or older to enter.

The store looked about the same, with all the same merchandise as before. In front, where it can be seen by anyone passing by, including children, is a whole array of lingerie. Nothing directly sexually suggestive, so if I had kids I wouldn’t mind them seeing this. In the back part of the store where they used to keep their huge variety of sex toys, are the enormous variety of “novelty items” which are now sold for medical, scientific, and educational purposes, or to be used at a party for something such as a "cake topper."

Since I think lots of orgasms are good for my health, I was pleased to see that all the same medical devices I’ve been used to being able to purchase were still there, with even a few new additions, though I suggested that they might get into trouble calling things medical devices.

I told the salesperson I was there to find out how the new law was panning out, and to see what they could still sell.

We chatted for a bit and giggled about the day the Supreme Court refused to hear Sherri’s appeal and the city lit up our big rocket, part of Huntsville’s famous Space and Rocket Center, with hot pink lights in honor of the first day of breast cancer awareness month, not realizing that these two stories would both be on the evening news.

Then she showed me some of their new items which are especially woman-friendly, with shapes to fit the contours of the female body. Although there were some products with labels saying they were for medical use only, most of the products on the racks have a sticker on them that says “SOLD AS A NOVELTY ONLY” followed by smaller print saying not to use it on inflamed tissue, skin eruptions, or unexplained calf pain, and that they are not suggested for penetration of body openings.

I asked if customers would have to sign a waiver if making a purchase, and we do. This is what it says:

“All products which may be subject to the restrictions imposed by code of Alabama sections 13A-12-200.2 and 13A-12-20.3 are displayed at Pleasures for bona fide educational purposes only so that our customers may make informed medical, scientific and educational decisions with respect to the type of products displayed.

“No such product is offered for sale in this store. You may offer to purchase such a product, but by asking to purchase an item you represent and warrant that your purchase and any resulting sale of the product is for a bona fide medical, scientific, educational, legislative or judicial purpose. In her/his sole discretion, any employee of Pleasures may refuse to accept such an offer to purchase.

“No exceptions will be made to this policy.

(The fourth paragraph is a standard medical disclaimer.)

“Alabama State Law does not prohibit the possession of an adult toy. Nothing sold in this store is prohibited by law.”

Paragraph two of the disclaimer says, in other words, that if a customer comes in asking to buy a sex toy or a dildo, they will be told that the store does not sell sex toys or dildos, and can be asked to leave.

I bought a medical device, a new bullet (mine’s about to wear out) and an educational device, an intriguing looking sleeve for the bullet that has a g-spot attachment that I’ve never seen before, paid my $16.50, and signed the document.

Since one day we could have a class action lawsuit against the state I guess I also bought these items for “legal and judicial purposes.”

The next day I called another local store, Naughty and Spice, which carries a similar array of lingerie and “novelty items.” (I like their lingerie because they have fishnet tights which fit well over bigger legs and are very durable.) They told me their policy was similar to the one at Pleasures, and that no one from the state had come into the store to tell them to take the novelty toys off the shelves. They are planning to open a second store just across the state line in Tennessee, about a 30 minute drive from here.

Since most people don’t have this new information, I decided to do a public service announcement at our pub’s open mic night. “It is now illegal to sell sex toys in Alabama. This law was challenged several times, and we gave it the good fight, but we lost. If you go into a store asking for sex toys or dildos they’ll tell you they don’t sell these items and can ask you to leave. However you can still buy novelty items . . . ”

This helped the bartender out a lot, because it was near closing time and all the people he would normally have to ask to leave, several times usually, left on their own in a big hurry. Most of them were youngish guys, a few with girlfriends in tow, who seemed to still think those anatomically correct pleasuring devices are competition for them. If you ask me this is one of the major underlying attitudes behind making it illegal to sell these things. Hopefully they -- and our state legislators -- will gain more self esteem and emotional maturity in the future.

Some of my younger women friends have tiny stickers which say “you can have my sex toy when you pry it from my cold dead . . . .” I don’t like the negative tone of this one and thought about instead putting one of my worn out silver bullets in the back window of my car with my new bumper sticker that says “No you can’t have my rights, I’m still using them,” but decided this wouldn’t be in very good taste.

I’ve been laughing and joking about all this, and I still have access to my toys, but I deeply resent the fact that once again a bunch of de-sexed, mostly male authority figures are attempting to interfere with our sexual freedom. The sex toy law is not all that different from our state laws forbidding legally recognized partnerships of homosexuals, and the national laws that some are attempting to pass making abortion and maybe even contraception illegal. All of these are efforts to limit and control our splendidly varied erotic expression.


Thank you, Julia, for this terrific report! Comments, anyone? -- Joan

10 comments:

  1. I enjoyed this post -- but I'm wondering, What's a "bullet"? I thought I knew so much -- but this week I just found out what a "pubic landing strip" and a "Brazilian wax job" are. Nice to keep learning...

    Sally

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  2. Hi, Sally. I enjoyed your question and comment about learning! a "bullet" is a bullet-shaped vibrator used for clitoral stimulation. Ask at your local woman-friendly sex shop, if you have one, or check it out online. Amazon, believe it or not, lists several at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b/104-8738220-5387168?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=bullet+vibrator . (If the URL isn't hyperlinked, copy & paste it into your browser, but be sure to get all of it.)

    Enjoy!

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  3. Newbie to sex toysNovember 29, 2007

    Julia is gutsy to publish this great report! Thanks, Julia! It would be fun to read other people's experiences purchasing sex toys. Are you up for that, Joan?

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  4. Newbie, I am always open to reader contributions!

    -- Joan

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  5. glad to discover a site that will be interested in my Condom Amulet Project. yes, knitting Condom Amulets is the way to begin Safe Sex conversations. am assuming it is still possible to buy these in alabama?

    please visit www.alittlredhen.com, click on the blue condom at the left. great titles--Ballband Amulet keychain, ManThong, and more--and Free patterns. learn how i started on discovering crisis in HIV among women over 50of course, knit or crocheted amulet with a condom tucked in would be perfect for the college student you know!

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  6. Naomi, very clever idea! You left out a letter in the URL you typed -- it should be this: http://www.alittleredhen.com/

    -- Joan

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  7. julia carterDecember 10, 2007

    As far as I know we can still buy condoms in Alabama, and the condom amulets would not fall under the law about sex toys either. I think this is a place where men are generally still very resistant to using condoms, but that's another story.

    Condoms imply that one is having a nice "natural" orgasm with a man, the "normal" way, so I don't think we'll be seeing any laws against them.

    As for bullet vibrators, I think the silver bullet is one of the best inventions of the 20th century. Before the bullet we had these huge clunky things. The bullet vibe is much smaller. You can use it alone or with a partner, and it can be used while sitting in a chair which can be awesome. It is easy to move around so you can stimulate the whole clitoral area. Using it with a partner, it works better if you put a sleeve over it so it won't slip around as much. The sleeves are sold at the adult toy stores and cost about $5. Sometimes they have a cock ring attached, but you can just cut this off if you don't want to use it.

    The bullet is so popular that there are now dozens of variations. The newest ones are pink plastic and very cute with multi speeds and pulsing vibrations as one of the choices. I've seen an extra long bullet on line, and you can get one with a remote control (wireless) that you can give your partner. But I still like the classic which is so nice and simple and a great starter toy if you want clitoral stimulation.

    How ironic -- in light of Marty's comment that you can still buy a gun in Alabama but not a sex toy -- that a favorite toy is a called a "bullet" vibrator. Maybe we need to call it something else, like an "egg" vibrator. The business part of this thing actually looks more like an egg than a bullet. Kind of an interesting comment on our society's immersion in violence, to the point where we don't even think about it, that we've labeled an erotic pleasure device a "bullet."

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  8. I agree, Julia -- it has always bothered me how we accept violent language for non-violent experiences. Certainly our sexual experiences should be non-violent, and so should the language describing these experiences, including a favorite sex toy!

    We'd never manage to make a change in naming the bullet vibrator at this stage, though.

    -- Joan

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  9. stargazingJune 01, 2008

    Thanks for helping keeping the nation free. The government needs to stay out of my bedroom. We enjoy sex using different toys and it is one of the few pleasures we have left. I know that a lot of people used them but they are afraid to talk about them. Once again it's left to one's bedroom.

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  10. AnonymousJuly 20, 2008

    It's a pretty sad state of affairs when the state dictates the morality code.

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