Sunday, September 16, 2007

Looking for "Granny Sex"?

OK, I have to ask you -- if you arrived at this site because you typed "granny sex" into your search engine, what were you hoping or expecting to find? I'm sincerely curious! Were you hoping to find an affirmation of older-age sexuality? (if so, you're in the right place!) Or did you use those search words because you're intrigued by what your grandmother might be doing behind closed doors? Or because you expect to get a giggle from a site that makes fun of elder sex? I'm just wondering... I hope you'll comment!

If you're wondering why I'm asking this, it turns out that many people arrive here because they searched "granny sex." Far more of you search by "sexy seniors" or "senior sex" or "sex after sixty," and that makes sense. But this "granny sex" idea puzzles me, and I hope you'll respond! (You can either click "comments" below or email me, your choice.

2/6/08 update: As readers continue to use "granny sex" in emails to me and comments on this blog, as well as the search words that bring you here, I've come to understand that the term is not meant disrespectfully. In fact, a few of you have written me using "granny sex" quite lovingly. Is this term used outside the US more commonly than it is here, I wonder...?

57 comments:

  1. Hello, I am a 36 yr old male and am very attracted older women. I have never had a relationship with an older lady, but I get very excited about the thought of having an intimate lasting relationship with a more mature woman. I am attractive, not a Brad Pitt, but definitely better than average. I have looked up Granny Sex before, but have never experienced it. I don't just want Granny sex, I want a Granny Relationship. How do I approach a lady in her 50's or 60's. I believe that such women would just look at me as just a horny younger man looking for sex instead of sincerely looking for a more fulfilling relationship with a woman that I'm attracted to. How can I put myself out there as available to older women with a true desire to please her in all aspects of a meaninful relationship?

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  2. I'm a 19 yr boy and I think older women are more attractive that the girls of my age. I don't know why, but it's true. I'm only talking about a sexual attraction, because I already have a girlfriend, but for me she isn't so attractive that a "granny". Is this a perversion? I don't know. I never experienced this type of sexual relationship, but I really dream about it very often, even if I know that this experience wont be in my future, and this makes me very sad. Sorry for my english, but I wanted to say that...

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  3. I am 19 now and for many years have loved older women, i find them more attractive for some reason and love seeing them naked. Im not going to mention how old i was but i lost my virginity to a "granny" and it was brilliant, i know many people will read this and think that i am making this up but im truely not. This woman was 59 and old enough to be my grandmother and i had known her since i had been 5 or 6. I loved havin sex with her and i am not ashamed of having sex with someone so much older than myself, so much so that we have had sex since that night. I think if you ask many men, you will find that 60-70% of them will openly admit that they would love to have sex with an older women but as for knowing why, i couldnt tell you.

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  4. ihad sex with a women 68years old when iwas 14 now im 60 and i have always loved having sex with older women i have oral sex with a 73yearold women and its great for both of us

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  5. I have always been attracted to older women. I think a lot has to do with early life sexual experiences with older women.
    I had short relationships with:
    when I was 15 with a 60 something year old woman
    When 19, a 40 ish woman, and
    When 21 a woman in her late 30's. For me it was a way to have sex, enjoy sex, learn about sex, with a stress free atmosphere.

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  6. Running BearFebruary 08, 2008

    Dear Joan

    I am 50+ and have always been attracted to older women. I find them almost always to be sexier, more appreciative, willing to experiment and generally more exciting to be with. Even when I was a teen ager I had many experiences with older women. One of the most exciting was with my across the street neighbor who was 30 something when I was 17. We had a summer of love. One spring break I went down to Miami and meet a 40-50 lady from the midwest. She was vacationing with two girlfriends (sans husbands for the weekend) and I ended up in bed with her and stayed in her hotel for two nights. She took my photograph and was interested in staying in touch ( of course we never did.) I presently have a lover who is my contemporary and I still sometimes close my eyes and fantasize that I am with a much older lady who is very demanding and needy. I am sure the fantasy is probably a little better than the reality, however I would love to meet and bed down with a 65-75 something lady right now! J-

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  7. Hmm.... I'm not so sure I want to be called the "Granny" in this relationship! I don't find it flattering at all and so I choose to boycott the term. Sorry if I'm a party-pooper here. I think that all of us older women who are trying to cope with an older body in spite of our young souls are not being helped by being termed as "Granny" in any shape, manner or form... least of all our own attitudes of self. The term "cougar" for older women has recently crossed my path and I can accept that much more readily. As I mention somewhere else on Joan's blog, I would personally much prefer being referred to as feral than as pruney.

    Just my two cents.

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  8. AnonymousJuly 11, 2008

    hi im 18 years old n i know all off u are just going to think that this comment is a joke.. but to be honest, i realy like older/mature wemen... i think they are great... i know i know, you will all say im very young, but as people say, age dosent matter... at least now i can be abel 2 share my feelings to other people.... tnx for reading..

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  9. Hi Joan, I´m 37 and have married twice already, to women either same age or younger. Since last year I met my current girl (and hopefully wife-to-be) who´s 57. I could never figure her age until she told me, as she looks not to be even 40 yet. Our relationship is outstandingly good, we really get along well, and I never think anymore of having anyone younger. This is the most fulfilling relationship I ever had, not only for the sex but also for the mindset. I guess noticing her behavior in bed was what hooked me - she really pursuits her own pleasure giving all of her towards it, seems she doesn´t bother at all about my pleasure, but that is what makes it all the most special because indicates liberation that only maturity can bring. Cheers, Carlos

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  10. Hello, i am a nineteen year old boy whom, for as long as i can remember has always found mature age women very attractive. i would not want to form a long tem relationship with one but the idea of having a sexual relationship with a grandmother is highlt exicting to me. despite this i dont want people to think of me as just a horrny yound man. i would never dream of just having sex with these women and trating them like i don't care, for i do. it's just that i would love to be in a sexual relationship with no strings attached. unfortunatly i have no idea how to go about this. can anyone offer any advice?

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  11. hello i am very attracted to older woman (ganny)or mature
    i want a sex replationchip with one its just that i would love to be in a sexual relationship with no strings attached. unfortunatly i have no idea how to go about this. can anyone offer me any help please

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  12. Shaz1, you've said what you want, but what is it you're offering this no-strings-attached older woman?

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  13. Hi,my first turn on with older woman was the movie summer of 42 yes I got so excited I thought I was going to burst. Well I'm 57 now and the thought is very exciting still. an I've seen ladies in thier late 6o's early 70's that still have it going strong. But I wouldn't be having sex I would be making love to her as if she was a 19 year old woman and treat her like a queen. maverick

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  14. To me 22 years I madly want to have sex with the elderly lady...

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  15. AnonymousMay 25, 2011

    I will be 58 years old soon, and have been attracted to older women all of my adult life. I never acted on this attraction until I became single in 1997. She was about 77 years old then, and the sex was GREAT ! We had our relationship for about a year, then I had to relocate out of town. I have remarried to a woman about my age, but I still have a large desire to be with older women.

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  16. Tony from SAJune 03, 2011

    Hi Joan

    I am a 50 year old male ,My mother in law(73) has moved in with us and is a older version of my wife. This is causing me some discomfort as I have started getting sexal feelings for her.I know that I dont help matters by sticking to a old habbit of walking around in the nick when I lock up the house at night .and she has caught me doing this on more than one occassion.she doesnt turn away but takes a good look , which just turns me on LOL anyway so I have started to try and find out if other men have had the same desires,and what the experince was like if they faulted and took the plunge.I am also looking for advice on how to approach the subject with her. And find out how she feels and if the feeling is the same how we are going to deal with it.My gues is though that she is probably just as horny as me and if we did go to bed she would probably one of my best encounters.
    So yes that is why I did the Granny Sex search and ended up here, most of the other sites are just porn pictures and at my age I think thats a waste of time ,I must admit I have had a look at some of the pictures and if her parts look like those wow wow LOL
    I have been reading some of the post and this is a great site for info.
    Thank you
    tony from South Africa

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  17. Tony, thank you for your comment. I know the obvious suggestion is to put on a robe when you're locking up at night -- she may think you're purposely being seductive (which, admit it, you are!), and she's responding.

    The most important question to help you decide whether to take the titillation to the next stage -- and the question you didn't mention -- is this: Is a sexy enocunter with mom-in-law worth losing your marriage?

    I can't imagine that your wife would go along with the plan, and don't think you won't be discovered, because you will! Have you talked to your wife about your attraction? That's the place to start.

    I hope you'll continue the discussion!

    Joan

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  18. I have always been sexually attracted towards mature women. When I say mature, I mean 50+ or so. I am 25 and an attractive guy. But somehow I can never masturbate without fantasizing about a matured lady. I don't know if this is a desire borne out of any hidden incest fantasy, but it only growing stronger. Perhaps I am looking for the pleasure of an experienced sex partner and the comfort of a mother in the same woman? But being in a conservative society like India, I believe this will forever remain a fantasy.

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  19. I have always proffered much older women for many reasons where do I meet them

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  20. Curious, I address the "how to meet" and "how to approach" questions in other posts. Go to the right-hand column of this blog, find the section marked "labels," and scroll down the list to "younger men/older women." Click on that, and you'll see all the posts I've written on this top -- plenty to read, learn, and enjoy!

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  21. Hello older ladies and i'm a 40 years old man that's love talking going out and having sexual relationship with older woman and I don't care the oldest you are and if you would be interested and like and love having sex with a younger guy. Please texts me with some of your lovely pictures of any kind and i'm an attractive hot sexy and so and very wonderful man that you would ever meet. And I live in North Charleston SC and I work in James Island for James Island Public Service as a trash collector and please live close to where I live and work and I hope to hare from you but please texts me first with pictures and tell me a little about you and how old you are Thomas Sanders and i'm on facebook (843)870-3944

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  22. lol I searched the term "Granny Sex" because I am a freak that likes older experienced women some times and I like watching them perform.I find older women to be more stable,elegant and like a fine wine.

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  23. Im 45 and divorced, and back into the dating scene again. I had been looking for women younger than me, until i met an amazing 67 year old woman at a get together at a friends house. We have dated once, and text each other daily It's weird to say it, but i have a crush on her. She's classy, gorgeous, and full of positive energy. She's on my mind every day!

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  24. I didn't find this site with a "granny sex" search, but like many of the prior posts, I'm just checking in as another guy who is much more attracted to older women than younger ones. My wife in her late 50's is just getting into the range I like, and it's great. Like one of the prior posters, I had a tremendous crush on my wife's mother when she was in her 60's and 70's. So if my wife progresses like her mom did, I will find her increasingly attractive for the next 20 years or so.

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  25. I’m 25 and cant seem to shake my powerful lust for older women. I’ve had it since i was in my teens as far as i know and probably since i first started becoming sexually active. in the back of my mind growing up i always new my sexual lust for older women was a social taboo so i kept it to myself. This experience gives me a little insight into why gay men feel the need to come out.
    I think id be less afraid to come out as being gay than this. Probably due to society’s more relaxed excepting views of the last 50 or so years.


    here in lies the problem i don’t know how to approach a much older woman and keep it a private affair if you know what i mean, will society treat me as a leppa if i was to be open about this.

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  26. Anonymous (Jan. 8, 2013): I've written tips for men who like older women -- see the label "younger men older women" in the right-hand column. Get to know the woman before you approach her sexually. It's true that society isn't very accepting of this, but many women our age are just fine with it.

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  27. I'm 30 and I wasn't looking for granny sex. Find your page because I was searching for interesting sex advises, and your site has a lot of useful information for all ages!

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  28. hey joan im 19 im looking for a woman just like you for sex i think your really cute and your beautiful i wish i could have sex with a woman like you

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  29. Anonymous, I let your comment through instead of deleting it because it's a good example of the wrong way to approach an older woman. If you're too busy to use capital letters, punctuation, or spell "you're" correctly, what do you offer a slow-burning older woman? And "im looking for a woman just like you for sex" is a come-on line that has zero appeal. Please use this comment as a way to learn about the women you say you want. (If you wrote your comment as a prank, that's not stopping me from using it as a teachable moment.)

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  30. i have 58 years old and I'd like to know an older woman for relationship

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  31. I am 27 and I like older/grandmas because they know what they want, they don't play games and they are hotter then younger women

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  32. I 'met' my older lady via a serendipitous moment. I had left my lights on in a car park resulting in a flat battery. She came to pick up her car which was parked beside me. I then used her car to jump mine. We were chatting for ages, and eventually I persuaded her to go for a drink as a thank you. She was 64, and I was 45. We've been seeing each other for 3 years now, sex is just incredible. She indulges my every fantasy, and wears stockings & suspenders to please me. Leaving my lights on was one of the best 'mistakes' I've ever done!

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    1. What better place then here, to seek out that older woman every younger man dreams about?

      Let it be known....

      I'm available !!!

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    2. P, I almost deleted your comment, but decided to let it publish so that I could point out that shouting out, "I'm available!" is not an effective way to get a date. Just saying.

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  33. Im a 20 year old guy who loves watching granny porn.. I would love to date and make love to woman in her 60's.. It is honestly a dream of mine to have sex with women 60 and older.. Any grannies in the USA wanna get a hold me, call or text 480-265-5171

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  34. Re: Anonymous from 12/20/13: I get a lot of these requests via comments and email. I usually don't let them publish. This time, to encourage discussion, I'm letting this one post. This blog is not a sex partner matching site, and the idea of a woman in her 60s deciding to have sex with an anonymous stranger via an appeal like this bewilders me. But readers, you've surprised me before -- if you find this sexy and appealing, I hope you'll add your comment here.

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  35. I believe in being honest, I searched for 'grannies looking for sex' & came upon this site. I'm a 28 year old guy who likes older women. The term 'granny' shouldn't be construed as being offensive or derogatory, I see it as a nicer way of saying mature, older or senior. To me it implies mature, experienced, affectionate, loving (without sounding like I have an oedipus complex). I had a discreet, tumultuous relationship with a work colleague. She was twice my age at the time (54 years old), & I had known her for almost 2 years before we started seeing each other in secret. She looks amazing to me, especially after all she's been through. She's raised 5 children (3 of them older than me!) with 3 partners, she's survived breast cancer & stroke, recovering from a double hip replacement, legal guardian for a grandson & works full time. I am in awe of this woman. At first it was physical attraction, she's over a foot shorter than me at 5ft 3 (I love petite women), short hair (side effect of chemo), blue eyes, basically perfect combination for me. Then as I got to know her I slowly fell in love with her. It wasn't until I offered her a lift home from a party that she told me she liked me & asked me to kiss her. I gently refused as she was inebriated. The following day she apologised for her actions, at which point I told her how I felt. We began texting each other, going out for meals, cinema, theatre, day excursions to tourist attractions. We confided in each other, she told me about her life, it just made me love her even more. She didn't want anyone at work to know & the guy she's been living with for the past 22 years. He & her former partners had physically & sexually abused her & cheated on her. This took its toll on the relationship, 3 months after it started it was all over. She revealed to me that she was celibate & hadn't had sex in over 10 years.I told her I was a virgin (still am) & that I wasn't after sex. One evening we almost did but we couldn't go through with it, she had drank copiously to calm her nerves & overcome her fears, I wanted both of us to have a memorable, pleasurable experience (first time for both of us really). She told me she tried to give me what I wanted but she could as she felt damaged by her past relationships. I compounded the matter by telling her it was one of the most memorable nights of my life. Things became uncomfortable, the affection kisses, cuddles stopped, texting became les frequent, she took time off from work suffering depression. I tried to convince her things were okay but truthfully they weren't. She was convinced she is 'damaged, second hand goods' & that I deserved better. She thought the age gap was too big, citing she had kids same age as me made her feel uncomfortable. I tried to assure her that none of this bothered me but her mind was made up. We're still friends & co workers but I still the same about her. I've tried bringing out up in private conversations but she changes the subject or walks off. She keeps telling me it's for the best, she can't change who she is, it's not me, I didn't do anything wrong. Although it's been 3 months since she ended it, I'm love sick, literally feeling ill all the time. I'm contemplating meeting a 'granny' online in hopes off reclaiming what I had with her. But I can't help but feel guilty. What do I do?

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    1. Anonymous 12/22/13: I'm moved by your story. The woman you love really needs counseling before she's ready for a relationship, whether with you or not.She has had a very hard life and still does (it sounds like she's still living with her abuser -- true?) She doesn't know what she has to give at this point, she didn't feel that you were the right person for her, and she's closing down rather than work towards healing.

      I know you feel lovesick -- but are you in love with the woman or with a fantasy of what might have been? (I don't mean this unkindly, please understand.)

      Instead of trying to recapture what you felt you had with her, I hope you'll be open to getting to know women, learning who they are, not diving quickly into a rebound relationship.

      Does this make sense? I hope you'll continue to comment here.

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  36. I'm 16 and I really wanna have sex with older women like 30-60 any tips ideas ect?

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  37. Hi, I'm just curious from the poster, P on the 17th February advertising "'I'm available". If she indeed wants to strike up even a conversation with a potential younger man, how would one contact her?

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    1. This blog is NOT a place to get sex dates, and posting "I'm available" is pointless, especially when no one knows where P is in the world or anything about her/him.

      I'd rather hear from people discussing the age gap and how that affects sexuality.

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  38. Hi Joan,
    I hope this message finds you well.
    Since I can remember I have always felt that I would feel more comfortable in the company of mature women. In my early adult life at the age of 17 I went on holiday with a mate and his parents. Whilst away his mum decided to go topless by the pool, due in part to being egged on to by my mate. His mum had a wonderful figure but at a young age I could not bring myself to tell her so. A few years later when I'd met a girl of similar age, we ran into a few personal issues which I wanted to seek some help with. I could not talk to family so decided to call my mates mum for advice. She invited me round and when she saw how unwell I looked gave me a drink to steady me for telling her what was wrong. During this chat I plucked up the courage to mention the holiday and how great she looked. To my amazement she said that she always thought I was attracted to her by the way I looked at her from time to time. I told her that If I could I would love to make love to her and see her fully naked again. She smiled and said that she would like to as well but felt that 2 wrongs don't make a right ( Her husband had strayed in the past). However we did have a tender kiss and I was lucky enough to see and caress her stockinged legs and feel her breasts through her blouse. I always regret that we never got the chance to have some more time alone but this cemented for me the future would be with spending my life wanting a mature woman. I had several relationships with ladies 10-15yrs older than myself, then whilst having bought a flat I starting chatting to a neighbour who at the time was 74yrs and I was 28yrs and over several months built up a friendship and we both was able to talk openly about any subject. I told her of my love of a mature lady and she said that there was nothing wrong in having those wishes. On her 75th Birthday I bumped in to her when she was returning from a lunch with friends and I said that I would like to give her a birthday kiss but in private if she would like one. She invited me into her home and we stood looking at each other and we then embraced and had a long lingering kiss and cuddle. We caressed each other and she said this is wonderful and the best birthday treat she had. I left with my head a whirl, and could not get the image out of my head. I went out with friends that evening and on my return home I stopped and gave her a knock. She opened the door invited me in and we sat in the front room with her in a nighty. We chatted about earlier and we ended up going to bed for a cuddle and she had made me so aroused that she said would you like to make love. I said is it what you would like and she said Yes I would. We made love and it was mindblowing. We ended up in bed together every night that week and to date we still are making love as and when we can. I'm now 46 and she will be 89 this year. We have spoke about the future and I can honestly say I will never think that if the chance happens again with someone who is in their 70s or 80s for a relationship I would embrace it willingly.

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  39. Anonymous (March 26, 2014), the end of your story really surprised me -- a 75th birthday "gift" has lasted 14 years already! Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. Hi Joan

      Why did the end of My story surprise You?

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    2. Because your relationship is still going on! Lovely!

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    3. Thank you Joan,
      Yes I have been truly blessed that I found a wonderful lady to share the most intimate of friendship with. We both sometimes say how lucky we are to have such a special love even with such an age gap. There are many who judge couples of differing age groups as to what the attraction is but as we have said ourselves is why should someone who is of a certain age stop having those sexual feelings which is natural if they can have and share a sexual relationship. Admittedly woman outlive men, and mens libidos wains with age, but if a young man shows interest why not embrace the moment and enjoy having passion in your life.

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  40. I found this article while I was looking around the site for the first time, and the title amused me. I am a lesbian, now 57 years old. I always used to go for older women because they were generally far more experienced, and I loved to learn. As time passed, that older and more experienced woman became me! Anyway, I think perhaps the point is that men reach a sexual peak during their teens, while women grow confident, know exactly what they want later in life. Also, more women are happy to say what it is they want, are direct. What sexually active young man would say no to such an enticing combination? Age is relative. The word "granny" no longer refers to a little apple cheeked, white haired old lady in a rocking chair, does it? Because that would be.... wrong!

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    1. I love your comment, Josbd! Thanks for joining our community!

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    2. Thank you Joan! So long as you don't mind having the thoughts of an interloper from the UK! Jo

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  41. AnonymousJune 13, 2014

    I came across your site by chance and have found it very interesting. I have had an interest for several years in wanting to explore the opportunity in initially seeing a mature lady naked but that has turned into wanting to make love to a mature lady. This has happened by an experience I had recently, it started by as with most men turning to someone they know to ask the question ( can I ) and I thought as I have a good relationship with my mother she would allow me to see her undressed. Oh dear, how wrong I was. I was told that I was disgusting and wanting to see anyone who is old naked was immorally wrong, if I ever mentioned it again my father would be told. Well I never thought about having the chance again from that but was totally surprised by what happened several months ago now. On a visit to my grandmothers to change some lightbulbs for her whilst we sat having a drink she asked me what has happened with your mum? I replied that I'm not sure what she has said but I really upset her and we are not really talking much. My grans reply was that she knew what had been spoke about and thought her daughter was very narrow minded and should be ashamed that she dealt with my question wrongly and she should of been pleased that I had the courage to talk to her and not go off with anyone and asked. To say I was embarrassed is an understatement, but gran continued chatting with me about why I had asked and what I hoped it would achieve. Gran then said through this chat, well why did you not come and ask me about your wanting to see a naked mature lady, I said gran you would not get undressed in front of me surely, and her reply was yes I would and if you really want to see a naked lady I will for you and no one needs to know about it. Gran always has been a very feminine lady, I have never seen her in anything other than skirts , blouses or dresses and even at the age of 79 has a great figure. I told her I felt nervous about it and I'm not sure if I might get aroused and that would be so wrong. She said don't worry about getting aroused that is normal. So gran proceded in unbuttoning her blouse to reveal a lovely lacy bra slightly see through and then stood up and unzipped her skirt and let it slip to the floor. Wow, Gran was wearing matching lacy panties and suspenders with flesh tone stockings. How do I look she asked, amazing was my reply. Great she said I want you to enjoy this as much as I will. Gran then allowed me to run my hands up her legs over her body and caress her breasts which are really firm, then said are you ready to see me completely naked, I was and so she unclasped her bra to reveal her breasts then slipped her panties off and she stood there looking stunning. I was blown away by seeing gran like this and I must admit I was really aroused. Gran did a little dance around the room and surprised me by how mobile she was. I thanked her for giving me the chance of seeing a naked mature lady and she said that she was pleased that I felt that way. Gran then said be honest how aroused are you? I said very gran but I need to stop having the thoughts I'm having. she asked what are they with a smile, I said If you was not my gran I would have to take my clothes off and make love to you thoughts. She shocked me then by saying take your clothes off then and make love to me. I did not, but so wished I had as I keep having these visions of gran now and I know they are morally SO Wrong. Hence my looking on the internet for a mature granny.

    I can't believe I have wrote this to you but thought it would be an interesting read for others.

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  42. Anonymous, you're right, your comment is an interesting read -- thank you. I can't help wondering if it happened exactly as you said, or maybe you embroidered the memory with fantasy. Either way, though, your continued attraction to older women is a vital part of you, and there's nothing wrong with that. I hope you find someone who can nurture you and help you enjoy this attraction without guilt. Thank you for sharing with us.

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  43. AnonymousJune 14, 2014

    Hi all, just fond this by chance and thought what a great site and place to read each others stories. I'm 41 and have been having a sexual relationship with a women of 61 for the past four years. I divorced my ex seven years ago who was a couple of years younger than me but felt the desire to date older women. It was the best thing I did, learnt so much sexually. The only problem was making a go of a long term relationship with them as it seemed unacceptable. I now have girlfriend the same age as me and everything is great but I can't let go of my older lover and she of me. We seem to have the best of both worlds, both have loving relationships and our own special relationship that is like mother and son that sleep together, is that wrong?

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  44. Anonymous from June 14/2014 -- As long as your current girlfriend (of your age) and your older lover are fine with you having both relationships, I see nothing wrong with that. The problem would be if your current GF thinks that your relationship with her is sexually exclusive -- and it's not. Are you honest with both?

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    1. AnonymousJune 14, 2014

      Only my older lover is ware of my girlfriend of my age. My girlfriend would be destroyed if she found out about my older lover. It doesn't feel wrong as we have mother son relationship that happens to sleep together. We have tried to not see each other but we keep getting back together. She has never been interested in younger men before and has expresses desires of us going out and pretending to be mother and son and introduce me as such. I did confess to her that I had slept with my own mother when I was younger and she now wants to take up that .

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    2. "My girlfriend would be destroyed if she found out about my older lover." I think she has the right to know and to decide for herself whether to accept this or get out. I don't mean to seem judgmental, but I do feel strongly that honesty and authenticity are best for all involved, whatever is going on. If your girlfriend would be devastated by knowing your truth, doesn't she have the right to know? You didn't ask for this advice, though....

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  45. Wow! I read this page because someone tweeted it, and I really enjoyed reading all of these comments.

    I think human sexuality and sexual attraction is far more elastic and fluid than our society has given it credit for. We believe that "only the young and beautiful" are entitled to the best sex and being the most lusted after...but it really isn't true at all. People are attracted by such a wide range of things...for most of us, our personal eroticism is far richer as we get older.

    This is sort of why it really is true that "there's someone for everyone".

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  46. Seth age 68June 14, 2014

    My lover turns 90 tomorrow. She has always loved sex. As soon as I walk in the door, she immediately takes off her clothes and jumps in bed. She still gets wet.

    I remember when I was in the 4th grade, wanting to be sexual with my third grade teacher. She would invite me to spend the night at her house and I would love looking down her blouse while she would read to me. Her breasts were full.

    I have never cared for younger women. My first sexual experience was with our maid. I guess she was in her late fifties. My parents would go out for the evening and I would cuddle with her on the couch. Later I would sneak into her bedroom.

    Now I get turned on when older woman walk into my shop.

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