Saturday, January 20, 2007

Suddenly Senior column: Straight Talk about Sex and Relationships after 50

“WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE to see new columns about?" Frank Kaiser asked his Suddenly Senior readers.

"I would like to see a senior sex and relationships section, including topics such as dating, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and talking back to media stereotypes," I responded, "and I would like to write it."

"Do it," Frank replied.

Suddenly Senior, if you're not familiar with it, is an amazing website with 2,400 pages of humor, nostalgia, senior advocacy and useful information for seniors 50+, read by 2.3 million online visitors. It's "a place for everyone who's become senior before their time" -- and isn't that all of us?

In my first column, I invite readers to join me in discussing the issues that face us as seniors seeking and enjoying love and intimacy in all their dimensions, and I invite you to join me here as well. Let's shout out loud against the ridiculous and destructive stereotype of older people as either sexless or pathetic for still wanting/ enjoying/ seeking sex.

If you're not in a relationship, but you'd like to be, let's talk about the experience of being "single and seeking" after 50.

If you're in a long-term relationship, please share the issues you face and how you keep the fires burning.

If you're in a new relationship, what are the joys and challenges? Let's talk openly about our concerns, questions, and experiences.I look forward to hearing from you.

Read my first column for Suddenly Senior by clicking here, and please either post a comment here or email me about your concerns, your attitudes, your experiences.

My next Suddenly Senior column will be "Sex and Older Bodies: Tips, Tools, and Tricks that Work!" I'll be talking about the challenges that our aging bodies make us face -- not only slower sexual response, but also the nitty gritty questions of finding comfortable positions when we have arthritis or bad backs or hips, and the tools and props that make senior sex more comfortable. Your comments and questions are invited!


  1. Hey Im not having senior sex till I reach atleast 70. Thats only 8 years away yet.
    And Ill proably not want to admit im a senior even then.

  2. Arnold, age 89January 29, 2007

    Greetings, Joan Price, my name is Arnold Bull, author of "Longevity in Action" which deals in part with much of that which you espouse. I became a certified aerobics trainer at age 70 and for the next 15 years held the title of "America's Oldest Certified Aerobics Instructor". I will be 90 next year, am in pretty much the shape of a 65-year old if I say so myself.

    However, as a resident of an assisted living facility while my still- beautiful wife (at 87) is in re-hab elsewhere, I have to hold my primitive urges in check. Besides, Viagra is considered contraband and confiscated.

    I am now in the early stages of creating a blog site and hope to one day attain the title,"World's Oldest Blogger." My blog URL will stress my admiration for my fellow oldsters. I am of the opinion that most elderly people, especially the women, are BEAUTIFUL; like an Old Master's painting -- just don't get up too close or you'll see the cracks in the canvas.


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