Thursday, September 07, 2006

Attention Single Seniors

Are you a senior who has divorced or lost a spouse or partner? Are you dating or considering dating? If you want to dip your toes in the waters of senior dating, but you're frightened because you don't know what scary stuff might be in those waters, I'd love to hear from you.

What will go into your decision whether or not to have sex with a new person? What will you do about protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs/HIV)? How will you talk to your new partner or potential partner about this?

If you've been dating for a while, how do you resolve the questions above?

I hope you'll share your thoughts on this topic.

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-- Joan

4 comments:

  1. Hi Joan,

    I'm 51 and new to dating. It's all so strange, scary and exciting at the same time.

    I keep wondering how to meet men to ascertain whether or not to proceed. I'd rather avoid the 'blind date' routine but dating on line is really 'blind dating' at it's best, or worst!

    I have a blog as well. I hope you visit me.

    Maggie

    http://datingafter50.blogspot.com/

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  2. Maggie, I visited your blog and enjoyed it -- I posted a couple of comments there.

    I advocate doing the social and educational activities that you really enjoy, so that you'll meet the people who enjoy what you do.

    Also, if you're doing what you enjoy, you project a different kind of joy, energy, and attractiveness compared to going somewhere with the sole purpose of "meeting men."

    I met Robert line dancing -- certainly not where you'd go to meet men! But the man I fell in love with loves to dance and especially enjoys this kind of dance, as I do. A perfect match!

    On the other hand, if you're open and happy with yourself, you may meet your perfect man in the most unlikely circumstances -- like the woman who wrote to me recently that she met her man getting a blood pressure test! They're now in love.

    Some of the women I interviewed in Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty met their mate through online dating. Yes, it's "blind dating," I agree, but it's a way to get to know many different people before you decide whom to meet in person.

    I'd love to hear from other people about how they met their partner or spouse after age 50.

    Thanks for writing,

    Joan

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  3. Exactly what is safe sex? Is it just making sure you use a condom during intercourse? Is oral sex safe? I've been divorced over 20 years and my line is "I don't date". It's not that I don't want to, it's that dating leads to some kind of sex. I attend singles functions, especially dancing, just so I can have a great time and, yes, be held and be close to some great looking men, but that is where it stops. I go home alone. Somebody tell me before I "waste" another 20 years!

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  4. ORAL SEX - Not quite sure where to leave this comment so... I've always enjoyed oral sex, more receiving it than giving it only because men's semen has such a bitter taste. Well, my last lover (and I have had well over a 100) had the sweetest tasting cum! He told me that it was because he was Jewish, but since about 70% of the men I've been with have been Jewish, I don't think that is the reason. I'm wondering if you have come across the reason for a man's semen tasting so good in your extensive research. BTW I'm 64 and he's 60, and we had an 18-month intense relationship with the best sex I have ever had.

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