Friday, October 14, 2005

Sexually Seasoned Women Speak

I've just posted a sampling of snippets from my interviews with "sexually seasoned women" at I interviewed dozens of women over sixty who were willing to discuss their sexuality, past and present, for my book, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty.

Meet some of these women:

  • Bea, 77, is having the best sex of her life with a man thirty years younger.
  • Claire, 66, has fallen in love with a woman she met online, and has relocated to be with her.
  • Penny, 60, celebrated the birthday of her husband of 38 years by shaving her yoni and dancing for him.
  • Sweet Talker, 65, works as a "phone sex fantasist," playing the role of a 29-year-old model.
  • Rachel, 62, pleasures herself in an elegant ritual.
You'll read hundreds of candid comments, reminiscences, intimate details, and tips from these and many other sexually seasoned women in the book. Sample some snippets from these interviews at


  1. Dancing PennyOctober 15, 2005

    Congratulations on your fabulous book which I can't wait to get a copy of! It's about time we "sexually seasoned women" are heard and celebrated! I hope that your book will encourage other women to open up about their sexuality and live life more fully. Thanks for all your hard work on this project! You rock!

  2. I'm one of your "Sexually Seasoned Women"! I loved answering your interview questions and can't wait to "meet" some of the other "SSW" on this blog -- and in the book when it comes out!

    Here's what I'd like to know from other women: How openly do you speak about your sexuality to other women your age (or any age)? Until I answered Joan's questions, I really didn't talk about this to other women. Yet it's a hugely important part of who I am.

  3. Sweet Talker, 65October 19, 2005

    I am honored to have been chosen as someone interesting enough to be included in this wonderful work of art you have created. It has been a long time coming and that's sad but we can now rejoice, it nearly here. As we age we women are like fine wine and we do get better. I wouldn't change all the years of wisdom I have gained as I've grown older. The reason I am so successful in my Phone Actress business is I have the youthful voice and ideas of a young hot sexy woman and yet possess the knowledge of a seasoned (not senior) citizen.

    Joan my friend, I commend you and thank you for showing older women in their true light....Thank you

  4. I, also, am one of your "sexually seasoned women." I think it is so interesting that you came into my life at a time when I am being my most authentic self...and the topic of sex is so easily shared with you and therefore I can also be more comfortable with others about sex too. Of course, it is still the rare person, particularly women, who can just be comfortable with the subject. I think your book will help many, many people.

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  6. I just removed a comment by "anonymous" that was a personal attack on another person who had commented. I'm happy to have people challenge the ideas we're discussing, but no personal attacks. I'm inviting you to speak freely and engage with each other as a community -- without fear of anyone calling you names.


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