Wednesday, February 13, 2019

jessica drake and Joan Price Team Up for ‘Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’


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jessica drake and Joan Price Team Up
For ‘Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’

Wicked Pictures is Casting for Nude and All-Sex Roles
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LOS ANGELES - (February 13, 2019) - Adult superstar, sex educator and exclusive Wicked Pictures contract star jessica drake is teaming up with acclaimed author and expert on senior sex Joan Price for the newest installment of jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex. The award-winning instructional series is now in pre-production and casting for several roles.

The newest edition of Guide to Wicked Sex aims to explore sexually active aging, and how couples and singles can keep the fire going and the body responding throughout the passage of time. This collaboration between the award-winning performer and activist and the noted expert on senior sex will offer insights and tips for better sex after age 50, 60, 70, and beyond.

Wicked Pictures is currently seeking people over 60 years of age who are interested in participating in this educational video with interviews, hardcore demonstrations, and possibly penetrative sex scenes. All applicants will be considered and the director is open to all entries. Previous on-camera experience is not necessary. To apply, please send photos and a short biography to GTWScasting@wickedpictures.com.

Drake recounts when the seeds for the project were first planted, “When I met Joan years ago, I realized immediately the impact she was making not only on seniors worldwide, but also the educational community. She has a gift of authenticity and relatability that few can match. I’ve wanted to collaborate with her for quite some time now to make an educational resource for older adults - generations that missed out on sex ed growing up and are now facing new challenges.” She continues with her current ideas, “My goals for this project are to ‘give permission’ to folks who may not believe they have it, to explore their sexualities and live out their fantasies, no matter their age or perceived physical limitations. I want to use my Guide to Wicked Sex series to empower as many people as possible, and I am grateful to Joan for her hard work and effort in creating this vision along with me.”

“Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex” will take viewers through a variety of topics, from how aging affects our bodies and responsiveness, relationship communication, expanding what “great sex” can be, overcoming the obstacles, and staying sexual while solo. With expert advice and unique insights from drake and Price, this new installment of the acclaimed series will feature people in explicit demonstrations and sex scenes illustrating sex tips and techniques to enhance the sexual experience, partnered or solo.

Price comments, “I’ve long admired jessica drake for her sexual rights activism, her support of causes that touch her heart, and her dedication to sex education. Our Wicked Guide to Senior Sex is an outgrowth of all of these. jessica and I have been discussing and planning this project for a couple of years, and I’m thrilled that it will come to fruition in the next few months!” She explains, “Why a Wicked Guide to Senior Sex? You’d think that by age 50, 60, 70 and beyond, we’d know everything we need to know about sex. But no one warns us that our bodies and sexual responses will change as we age, often dramatically. Many seniors think that sex is over when they start experiencing sexual challenges, discomforts, and disappointments. But the truth is that sex can be exciting and satisfying again—with the right education, a spirit of adventure, and clear communication. I’m 75, and I’ve been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. This film will give a new dimension to older-adult sex education, with clear, practical advice demonstrated by real, sexy seniors.”

As a noted author of several books about senior sex, including “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50,” and self-described "advocate for ageless sexuality,” Joan Price is recognized for her active approach and support to restore or recreate satisfying sex for boomers, seniors, and elders.

Nominated Sexpert of the Year and Crossover Star of the Year at the 2019 XBIZ Awardsjessica drake is known for her best-selling adult movies and popular live appearances at men’s clubs. She is also a frequent contributor to a variety of media outlets as well as being highly sought-after sexual wellness speaker and educator who lectures at universities and leads seminars and workshops around the world. She is the writer, producer, and director of the video series jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” which has received critical acclaim from industry stalwarts AVN, XBIZ, Fleshbot.com, and others, as well as mainstream outlets like The Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Refinery29 and many others.

For more information about “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” titles, appearances, and sex education seminar series, visit GuideToWickedSex.com.

About Joan Price:
Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: "senior sexpert," "the beautiful face of senior sex," and—her favorite—"wrinkly sex kitten." Joan has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Her books include:
  • Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Loss of Your Beloved, Joan’s newest book, coming August 2019.
  • The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life, her most comprehensive senior sex book.
  • Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, winner of Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from the American Society of Journalists and Authors and 2012 Book Award from American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.
  • Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, Joan’s spicy memoir celebrating the joys of older-age sexuality.
  • Ageless Erotica, a steamy senior sex anthology which Joan conceived and edited.
At age 75, Joan Price continues to talk out loud about senior sex -- partnered or solo – in speeches, workshops, and webinars, and on her zesty blog, Naked at Our Age, which includes senior sex news, views, and sex toy reviews from a senior perspective. She also writes the “Sex at Our Age” column for Senior Planet. Subscribe to her newsletter here and watch her entertaining, free webinar, “Safer Sex for Seniors”.

About jessica drake:
An exclusive Wicked Pictures performer, writer, and director, as well as a global humanitarian and emerging sexual wellness authority, jessica drake’s brilliant career is illuminated by her prodigious talent and adult industry clout. A recipient of three coveted AVN Best Actress awards and AVN’s Mainstream Star of the Year honor, jessica has solidified her status as one of the industry’s most illustrious stars. However, it is her time invested in healing, working alongside, and educating the public of which she is most proud. In her self-directed, written, and produced “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex” series of instructional videos, jessica brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today's top adult stars. Each edition addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, which is presented in the spirit of inclusion and explored with a distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor. The series has earned recognition from AVN, XBIZ, and The Feminist Porn Awards, and is available on DVD, VOD and multiple streaming platforms.

A charismatic public speaker, the same demand for her modern sex education DVDs also takes jessica around the world - presenting seminars and workshops at expos, retail outlets, and colleges like USC, UCLA, and Chapman University – where she speaks to curious adults desiring to learn more about sex, romance, and communication. jessica also continues to be a paramount voice for sex workers across the world - she’s spoken at the Let Us Survive March, a rally for sex worker rights, and is a continuing sponsor of one of the first summits for sex workers, CatalystCon.

While jessica is certainly a performer at heart, her passion for sex education, advocacy, and inclusion are just as potent. “My passion comes from personal experience,” she states candidly, “from the idea we are all connected.”

For more information on jessica drake, visit Twitter.com/thejessicadrake.

About Guide to Wicked Sex:
Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her "Guide to Wicked Sex" series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award, and “Plus Size” earned XBIZ’s 2015 Specialty Release of the Year. For more information, visit GuideToWickedSex.com, Facebook.com/GuideToWickedSex, Twitter.com/Guide2WickedSex.


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Saturday, February 02, 2019

Manta for Penises from Fun Factory


It's always a joy when Fun Factory comes out with a new vibrator, and this time, it's the Manta vibrating stroker for penises. I invited Shamus MacDuff to experiment with the Manta, and he sent this report:

MANTA from Fun Factory

 Reviewed by Shamus MacDuff 

 The latest addition to Fun Factory’s delightful menagerie is a new sex toy for penises called Manta. Manta joins other Fun Factory “animals” such as Patchy Paul (a caterpillar) and Volta (a squid) in their growing sex toy “zoo.”

Manta is so named because the “grippers”  of the vibrating stroker resemble the “horns” of a Manta Ray. These grippers (aka flexible wings) have six intensity levels and six different rhythms to create a range of exciting stimulation. Manta can be used successfully in solo sex or in partnered fun, and either way it’s a winner.

Solo, I especially enjoy moving it slowly up and down my penile shaft with lube before eventually concentrating its vibrations on the frenulum and the ridge at the back of the penile head. Kazoom! This activity reminds me of watching real life manta rays rubbing up against coral heads back in my scuba diving days, an action to which they returned over and over because it obviously felt good.

Photo by Sebastian Pena Lambarri on Unsplash

My female sex partner used Manta to great advantage on my shaft, bringing me to throes of ecstasy as she combined Manta stroking with her own hand and mouth, backing off, and then bringing me up again. Joyous fun, leaving my entire body tingling.

Given that this wonderful “boy toy” works well solo or partnered, it will make an especially apt Valentine’s gift as that day for lovers draws near. Manta provides a ray of joy (pun intended) for penis pleasure. It’s wonderful to find another sex toy focused on the penis to accompany the many that are designed for the clitoris, vulva, vagina, and anus.


Shamus MacDuff, age 75, was oblivious to the delights of sex toys for penises until about a year and a half ago. He's been making up for lost time! Read his other posts here.

Note from Shamus's sex partner: I really enjoy giving my partner vibrator-assisted pleasure (as he does with me). Neither arthritis nor position fatigue stops the action when a toy like the Manta intensifies the sensation!


Note from Joan: Many thanks to Fun Factory for sending me their sex toys in return for an honest review. Take a look at all their products -- you'll smile at the shapes and colors, and I'm sure you'll find one (or more) that's just right for you. And here's a discount code for you:

SPECIAL 10% DISCOUNT
My readers get 10% off all Fun Factory products with the code JOANPRICE. Go to Fun Factory using this link or any of the links in this post. Explore. Choose. Use the coupon code JOANPRICE at the bottom of your shopping cart, before clicking checkout. Fun Factory is so eager to introduce you to the pleasures of their products that you can continue to use this discount code on all future orders until 4/14/2020. (Please note that this coupon cannot be combined with other offers.)



Sunday, January 13, 2019

Sex After Grief: Do you want to share your experiences?




Sex is complicated enough when it’s easy — but when we’re in grief, it’s especially mysterious and confusing. How do we nurture ourselves as sexual beings when we’re grieving the death of a partner? Why does taking care of ourselves sexually even matter when we’d rather hide under the covers and wail? What do we do with those sexual feelings that arise despite our misery? How do we know when it’s time to open ourselves to a new sexual relationship, whether it’s a friend with benefits or a new love connection?

I am thrilled to tell you that I'm writing a new book: Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Loss of Your Beloved. I will draw on my own experiences as a widow since 2008. I’ll share my own raw grief journey, my sexual reawakening (and the many stumbles along the way), my attempts to dip my toes in the dating pool, and what I learned.

This book won’t just be about me, though. As I’ve done in all my books about senior sex, I’ll include excerpts from other people’s personal stories, which will help readers see that we who have grieved have much in common, yet also much that’s different. There’s no right or wrong method or timeline for bringing our sexuality back to into our lives, whether it’s with our own hands, a well-placed vibrator, a hook-up, a new companion, or any combination.  

This is where you come in. If you have experienced the grief of your partner's death, how did you get sexual again? What was the hardest thing about opening yourself to sex with a new partner? What lessons did you learn about sex and grief that you'd be willing to share with others? What worked for you? What didn't work? What did you learn along the way? 

Additionally, I could use your experiences and perspective in these areas:

2/19/19 update: I edited this list again, deleting those topics that I no longer need and adding a few new ones. If you'd like to share your personal experiences or tips, even just a couple of sentences, I'd love to hear from you. I'll use short excerpts from your sex-after-grief journeys along with my own, plus quotes from professionals. Choose one of these topics and email me with "Sex after Grief" as your subject header if you'd like to contribute. **DEADLINE 2/25/19!** 
  • Your first partnered sex after/during grief, what it meant to you then, what it means to you now
  • How did you know when you were ready for partnered sex with a new person?
  • Feelings of guilt/betrayal of deceased partner when you wanted sex or had sex with a new person
  • Sex after grief when you're in a non-traditional relationship style: poly, kink, etc. 
  • Adventuresome sex after partner's death
  • Getting sexual in stages
  • Advice  about sex and grief from your grief counselor/ therapist/ coach/ surrogate 
  • Dating while grieving
  • Your first time with a new partner -- how did it go?
  • Communicating with a new (or potential) sex partner about desires, boundaries, uncertainty, safer sex
  •  Solo sex during grief 
  • What happened next? How you moved forward. Reflections on how far you've come. 
  • Advice for newly bereaved
  • Unexpected joy with new sexual partner  
  • Cautionary tales, warnings while we're vulnerable
If you'd like to contribute your wisdom or your story, please email me at this link with the subject "Sex after Grief." **DEADLINE 2/25/19!** If you prefer, you may post your comment here instead of emailing -- just realize that by posting, you are giving me permission to use excerpts from your comment.

Whether you post or email, I won't divulge your name or identifying details in excerpts that I use. You'll be anonymous in the book. Exception: If you're a grief counselor, therapist, book author, grief support leader, sex educator, etc. who would like to be quoted with your name, specify that.

People of all genders, all sexual orientations, all relationship styles are invited to contribute. Notice that I haven't said that you need to be age 50+. Sex after Grief will be primarily, but not exclusively, for our 50 to 80+ age group. Whether you're older or younger than 50 and you struggled with death, bereavement, and regaining your sexuality, your story is welcome.

Thank you so much for getting involved and helping other people who share the journey we never wanted to take. I hope to hear from you.

Thank you to all of you who emailed me since I first posted this 11/25/2018. Thanks to you, this book will be filled with diverse experiences and perspectives.  

It's not too late to email me and be included in Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Loss of Your Beloved**DEADLINE 2/25/19!** 



Saturday, January 05, 2019

Notes from the Penile Colony: Guy Talk about Vibrators by Shamus MacDuff

Note from Joan: Shamus MacDuff is the pseudonym of a 75-year-old retired university professor and author. Other than his name, he promises that everything he says about himself is true. His first guest post, “Great Sex Without Penetration: A Man’s View,” attracted so many readers and such positive response that when he offers additional posts, I quickly agree.

In the locker room at my gym, I overheard a 40-something guy complain to his buddy that his girlfriend insisted on using “a damned vibrator” that, in his view, kept “getting in the way of real sex.” I was tempted to interrupt and share a different story. I assert that more guys need to learn about the joys of sex toys, especially vibrators.

While a few vibrators are targeted specifically to provide stimulus and response to penises, a great many more kinds of sex toys exist. Most of these are designed especially (but not exclusively!) for clitorises and vaginas. It’s time to examine what these toys have to offer to penis owners, and to help guys like the fellow at my gym break out of the “penile colony” and begin to enjoy the myriad pleasures of a variety of sex toys.

For starters, most women cannot orgasm through penetrative vaginal sex alone, requiring arousal and stimulation of the clitoris. Vibrators are designed to provide exactly that stimulation, and it’s little wonder that women find them so desirable. If your partner loves her vibrator, that does not mean she doesn’t also love your touch. Rather, it indicates that she’s found the perfect combination of a partner and a vibrator to bring her to orgasm. Guys are not in competition with vibrators—they are our accomplices in giving joy and pleasure to our partners, a fact that the fellow in my gym had yet to understand. But there’s much more to this than meets the eye (or the clitoris), so let’s explore further.

It happens that vibrators work wonderfully on our male parts, too. During partner sex (of whatever form it takes), encourage your partner to apply her vibrator to your frenulum, your perineum, your nipples, or any other “turn on” spots that give you a happy buzz. A happy buzz is just what vibrators provide, often in a variety of patterns and speeds. You are sure to find several that will bring you to ecstasy more quickly than you thought possible. Once you do, you’ll then be vying with your partner for who gets “first dibs” on using the vibrator of choice. The fun and games during your partnered sex will be greatly enhanced for you both!

My partner introduced me to several delightful vibrators, and now these toys have also become a great addition to my solo sex practice. While the ones designed specifically for penises are very effective, I have found that many others, produced originally with vulvas in mind, are hugely satisfying during masturbation. Playing with vibrators almost certainly will convince you that they are our friends—true orgasm enhancement tools for guys as well as gals.

That conversation I overheard at my gym saddens me, because the speaker was clearly a prisoner of “the penile colony”—a believer that the only real sex is penis-in-vagina (PIV), with an unfortunate primary focus on his own pleasure rather than on increasing hers. Vibrators offer fun and innovative ways to break out of that unhappy mental prison, allowing us guys to recognize and experience the full panoply of delights that sex toys can provide to penises as well as clitorises. Give ‘em a try—you won’t be disappointed!




[Read other posts by Shamus MacDuff here.]

Friday, December 28, 2018

Best of 2018 Sex Toy Round-Up



So what if gift-giving celebrations have ended. It's always a holiday when you bring new sex toys into the world of your sexual pleasure, partnered or solo. Here are my favorites of 2018, with links to the reviews so you can learn more. Happy New Year, and may you enjoy many vibrations in 2019.


Fun Factory Sex Toys: The fabulous folks at Fun Factory sent me a box of toys, and I review them all here. My three favorites: Volta, one of the most versatile and pleasurable external vibrators ever; Patchy Paul, a slim penetrative vibrator; and Cobra Libre II, a vibrator that my penis-owning reviewer loved. Notice the 10% discount code at the bottom of the review!


* We-Vibe Touch. The We-Vibe Touch has become my favorite travel vibrator. It's tiny, weighs almost nothing, yet it's powerful and versatile, and the design is so smart. See why I love to pack it in my carry-on suitcase.


* Le Wand Petite. Sleek and ergonomic, this lightweight wand delivers surprisingly powerful vibrations while weighing less than 8 ounces. Not the strength of a Magic Wand, but if you don't need that intensity, it's terrific.


* Pocket Pulse. A smaller, modified version of the Pulse "guybrator" from Hot Octopuss that my 74-year-old penis-owning reviewer likes even better than the bigger, more expensive models. We love the Pulse because an erection is not required for use or receiving full pleasure.


* Atom Plus. This vibrating cock ring from Hot Octopuss surrounds penis and scrotum and helps keep erections strong while also stimulating the perineum, that nerve-dense area between the genitals and the anus. My reviewer describes his happy experience.


* We-Vibe Discover Gift Box. The gift that keeps on giving has 10 individually boxed items from vibrators to blindfolds. Follow me as I open each box and describe its contents.


The original reviews I've linked to in this round-up also include links to order from retailers that I endorse who support my mission to educate about senior sex. These are retailers who care about our sexual health as well as our sexual pleasure, and they stand for our right to remain sexual beings lifelong. Please support them, because they support us.

You don't have to stick to the newest 2018 sex toys for your trips to paradise. Do check out older sex toy reviews on this blog. (Keep scrolling down, then click "older posts" when you reach the bottom -- there are 135 reviews at the time of this writing!)

For a visual tour and hands-on (not genitals-on) demos of the favorites in this photo, view my webinar, Sex Toys for Seniors. My newsletter subscribers get special prices to view my recorded 90-minute webinars, so please subscribe here so you don't miss any news or special offers.

Monday, December 10, 2018

Perfect Strangers by Dorothy Freed


Dorothy Freed's Perfect Strangers: A Memoir of the Swinging Seventies is both one woman's personal story and the story of an era: the mid-1970s in San Francisco. Freed divorces a husband who cheated on her with her best friend and called her a "frigid bitch" because she didn't have vaginal orgasms. She goes on to explore her sexuality with whomever she chooses during 4 years of self-described "wanton promiscuity." She has plenty of sex with plenty of men, yes. But orgasms? Not so easy. 

Whether you had a wild side in the 1970s, or you still do, or you didn't, but wonder what that was like, Freed's memoir is honest and insightful. She navigates not only hook-ups, but her sense of self as she searches to define her sexuality in her own way -- not what her era taught or her ex-husband demanded.

Now 73, Freed looks back at this time of her life with candor and the perspective of a woman who gained much life wisdom and self-knowledge (and many orgasms) since that time. I asked Dorothy a few questions:

JP: What made you want to put this memoir into the world at this point, 40 years later?
Dorothy Freed then

DF: 1974 to 1978 was a seminal period in my life. For the first time, I was in charge of myself and my two sons. I loaded us in the station wagon, sat in the driver's seat, and drove us across country to start over. Later, when I examined how much I'd learned about myself in that four year span of time, I realized my story was a memoir of the swinging '70s, with historical significance, and one that needed to be shared with a larger audience.

JP: What message do you want people of our age, particularly, to get from your memoir?

DF: My message is to look back on the '70s as an era of unprecedented personal freedom, a time before AIDS colored our sexual world-view in dark hues. By the end of the memoir, my erotic behavior changed, but not because of fear of disease. I changed it because I saw no future in it. What was missing from my life was love and affection from a male partner. To achieve that, I needed to back away from my casual sex lifestyle, and focus on earning my living by making and selling my artwork -- and being open to the possibility of meeting a suitable man.

Dorothy Freed now
JP: Any advice to people of our age about exploring their sexuality, whether or not they did it the way you did?

DF: If there's still a spark alive inside you, reach out to embrace the adventure.

JP: Do you have any regrets?

DF: No, I don't. Events unfolded as they should. The path I chose was right for me.



Saturday, December 08, 2018

We-Vibe Discover Gift Box




The We-Vibe Discover Gift Box is a holiday gift, and much more. It's easily months of sexy giving and receiving. This curated gift box contains these 10 items for your sexual pleasure:
  1. We-Vibe Lube made by pjur: Water-based, safe for use with silicone pleasure toys.
  2. Tickler: A "feather duster" for your tickly bits or all over your body.
  3. Tango by We-Vibe: External mini-vibe, with 8 levels and modes of stimulation. Use the flat side, the tip, or the edges, and take it in the shower or tub if you wish -- it's waterproof and rechargeable. It's made of hard plastic and transmits the vibrations very well.
  4. Sexy Dice: Sexy instructions and the body parts to use them on. Roll the dice and play.
  5. We-Vibe Couple's Vibrator: AAA battery-powered, budget-friendly version of We-Vibe's signature silicone couple's vibrator. Designed for one "arm"  worn in the vagina and the other over the clitoris during partner intercourse, it's also dandy for unpartnered self-pleasure if the fit feels right. This version isn't as strong as the rechargeable models. (Hint: If you have trouble removing the paper from the battery compartment, as I did, use tweezers.) 
  6. Kegel Ball: You don't have to go to the gym to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Insert the silicone ball in the vagina and slow squeeze - slow release for pelvic floor tone and, potentially, stronger orgasms. Silicone.
  7. Massage Candle: Sweet vanilla-scented candle, which releases massage oil. Of course you'll extinguish the fire and test the heat before you pour it over your partner, right?
  8. Womanizer Starlet: Small, travel-sized, rechargeable version of the Womanizer, which uses a delightful "pressurized air pulses" technology. Use it on the clitoris and/or any-gendered nipples. (See my reviews of my favorite Womanizers here and my half-hearted review of the Starlet here. Although it's not my favorite Womanizer, it will help you know whether you like the feeling enough to invest in a stronger model.) 
  9. Dusk by We-Vibe: Silicone anal plug, marketed as a "beginner's butt plug" because it's smaller than most and tapered for easy insertion. It doesn't vibrate on its own, but the base is tube-
    Dusk + Tango
    shaped so you can pair it with the Tango to add vibrations. You'll feel mild vibrations internally and stronger vibrations on the perineum, which the Tango will touch. 
  10. Silky Sash: Use it as a blindfold or a restraint, or come up with your own idea!
Each item is individually wrapped within its own gift box and comes with a card describing the item and how to use it. You might choose to play with these individually, or try them in combination. With such a large collection of possibilities, you'll easily find some favorites. Enjoy experimenting!

The We-Vibe Discover Gift Box is listed at $350 (ouch!), but it's selling now for $249 from We-Vibe. Still pricey, I know, but if it's within your budget for a special treat that keeps on giving, you'll find much to enjoy!

Thank you, We-Vibe, for gifting me the Discover Gift Box!



Thursday, November 08, 2018

"Sex after 65" in the news



11/8/2018: I'm bringing this post from 5/29/18 to the top again because I hope you'll comment. I'm especially interested to know how you would interpret the question, "Are you currently sexually active?" if  a researcher asked you. (Please answer by posting a comment.)

I'm often complaining that little is known about our age group's sexual behavior and beliefs because no one asks us. So I was delighted to learn that researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 1,002 people between 65 and 80 about their sex lives as part of the National Poll on Healthy Aging 2018. The report, titled "Sex after 65. Health, gender differences, and lack of communication," was released on May 3, 2018.

Here are some of the findings:
  • 40 percent of people between the ages of 65 and 80 are sexually active.
  • 54 percent of those with a partner are sexually active.
  • Nearly 2/3 of older adults say they’re interested in sex.
  • More than 50% say sex is important to their quality of life.
  • 73 percent said they are satisfied with their current sex life.
  • 18 percent of older men and 3 percent of older women say they’ve taken medications or supplements to improve sexual function in the past two years.
  • Only 17 percent of older adults said they have talked with their doctor or other health care provider about sexual health in the past two years.
  • Those between the ages of 65 and 70 were nearly twice as likely as those in their late 70s to be sexually active.
  • 50% of men but just 12 percent of women aged 65 to 80 said they were extremely or very interested in sex.

As I read this, I kept asking myself how they defined sex or sexually active or sex lives. Did sex with a vibrator, a partner's hand or mouth, or one's own hand count as sexually active or having a sex life? (I say yes.)  I asked Erica Solway, Ph.D., co-associate director of the poll, who told me,

We did not define sex because we wanted the response to be based on the individual’s definition of what constitutes sex (or their sex life or being sexually active) from their own perspective. We felt this was important, but it does mean that we do not have information on what activities people were referring to when they reported they were or were not sexually active. It’s possible that two people engaged in the same activities may have responded to the questions differently based on their personal definition.

I agree that our own definition of what constitutes sex is important in a study like this -- I applaud this, in fact. But I would have liked that clearer in the poll questions. For example, "Are you currently sexually active?" could have been worded, "Do you engage in sexual activity?" That may sound almost the same, but I have a hunch that many people would interpret the first question as "Do you have sex with a partner?" and the second as "Do you have sex, either with a partner or with yourself?" Asking the question differently would have raised the percentage of people who answered yes to that question, seems to me.
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What do you think, readers? Am I off base? How would you interpret the question, "Are you currently sexually active?" (Please answer in the comments section.)

The wording of the questions is a minor quibble, though, because I understand that the poll was multiple-choice, not essay questions, and answered online, not via an interview. In the end, I'm happy that someone's asking.

This report was all over the news. Here are some of the headlines:
As glad as I was to see this study in the news, I couldn't help wondering why the [younger] public is so surprised that we seniors have sex on our minds and in our beds. Why would we give up something so pleasurable? Do they expect that on some predetermined birthday, we'll just say, "Sex? Been there, done that, moving on. Now help me blow out all these candles."

Thank you, University of Michigan Institute for Healthcare Policy and Innovation, for conducting the study, and AARP and Michigan Medicine, U-M’s academic medical center, for sponsoring it. Let's keep talking.

Wednesday, November 07, 2018

Sleek and Ergonomic: Le Wand Petite review

Sleek, handsome, comfortable, strong, and easy to hold. You'd think I was describing my latest man crush, but -- no surprise, right? -- it's a vibrator that has me sighing: the shiny purple Le Wand Petite. It also comes in a lovely rose gold. It happened that both The Smitten Kitten and Le Wand were eager for my opinion, and independently, they each sent me Le Wand Petite. Lucky me -- I have both colors!

Le Wand Petite is stylish looking and refreshingly ergonomic. Despite its 10-inch length and fairly large head, the handle tapers to under 2 inches in diameter, making it easy for arthritic hands to hold. Nice for short arms, too! And it's light. Very light. Just under 8 ounces.

Like many wand vibrators, you'll feel some light vibrations through the handle, but the high-power vibrations stay focused in the comfortable, silicone head. The neck is somewhat flexible, but only a fraction of an inch unless you press hard.

Le Wand Petite works delightfully as a solo clitoral vibrator, and the slim wand and long handle also make it easy to give yourself clitoral stimulation during partner sex. A penis can also enjoy the stimulation -- this isn't a gendered vibrator.

Magic Wand, Le Wand, Touch
But is it "petite" as the name claims? Compared to the original Le Wand (I'll add my review of that one soon) or the Magic Wand -- yes. Compared to the vibrators that usually accompany me on my travels, like the We-Vibe Touch -- no. However, it's so slim and light that it's easy to pack and carry. 

It's USB rechargeable and shower friendly, and comes with a zipped travel/storage pouch. The raised buttons are easy to locate by touch without looking, though you'll have to memorize which is "+" and which is "-" if you don't want to stop the action.

Despite the claims of "10 rumbly vibration speeds and 6 vibration patterns," I wouldn't call the higher speeds "rumbly." The low speeds are rumbly, but get buzzier as the intensity increases. Is it as strong as my 75-year-old body likes? It's not a Magic Wand or a Sybian, but it doesn't claim to be, and it's surprisingly powerful for a vibrator that weighs less than 8 ounces. If you want strong but don't require turbo power, you'll be happy.

Full disclosure: So this happened. After several happy experiences with each Le Wand Petite, the purple one stopped turning on. It was fully charged, but would make just a quick buzz, then turn off and stay off. The marvelous Le Wand people jumped to give suggestions and offer a replacement, saying this was not a problem others had reported. Then a few days later, I turned it on, same problem, but after I wiggled the head (because... why not?), it turned on and stayed on. I've tested the off/on again, with no problems. I didn't want to post a review without mentioning this, but I'm confident that it was a quirky glitch that righted itself. If you do have problems, Le Wand has a one-year warranty.

Many thanks to The Smitten Kitten and Le Wand for providing me with Le Wand Petite in return for an honest review.




Sunday, October 14, 2018

Fun Factory Sex Toys!


10/14/18: I'm bringing this 4/24/18 post to the top again. I find myself recommending these vibrators often -- especially the Volta and the Cobra Libre -- and I don't want you to miss out. Be sure you use the 10% discount code at the end! 

Lucky me! I own a toy box of new vibrators from Fun Factory. As the name implies and the photo illustrates, each colorful Fun Factory vibrator has something playful about it.

The shape may be a dolphin, a cuttlefish, a caterpillar, a race car. You can't help laughing as you try to describe it, and I'm sure that's intentional. Sex is fun. Solo sex is fun. Sex with vibrators is fun.

These Fun Factory toys have much in common, so I'm doing a round-up instead of reviewing the toys individually and repeating myself. All are well-made of body-safe, medical-grade silicone and they're waterproof for shower, tub, and pool use. Most charge via a USB magnetic charger, simple as can be, and they hold a charge for a long time. Yes, I have my favorites with unique qualities, and I'll tell you what makes them special.


My top favorite is the Volta. It's delightfully versatile. The curved shape and vibrating tips (I think of them as "flippers") can give pleasure in several ways. For example:
  • Nuzzle a clitoris by surrounding the glans (protruding tip of the clitoris) with the flippers.
  • Rest the curve of the Volta over the vulva for all-over stimulation.
  • Separate the flippers to vibrate the clitoris and the vaginal entrance simultaneously. 
  • Cuddle or circle around the head of a penis.
  • Stroke the shaft of a penis with the flippers during fellatio. 

The Volta is not only versatile, it's wonderfully strong! Take your choice of 6 intensity levels, oh my, and 6 rhythm patterns. It's rumbly rather than buzzy, which I appreciate.


My second favorite is Patchy Paul (explain that name to me, please), caterpillar shaped including two eyes.* The shape makes it perfect for G-spot penetration, or clitoral pinpointing, or curving over the vulva.

I find most Fun Factory penetrative toys too girthy for pleasure, but Patchy Paul starts narrow  -- 1.1 inch diameter at the tip -- and gradually increases in girth, bloop by bloop, to 1.7 inches in diameter. Unless you like really deep penetration, that widest bloop won't matter. It's also fairly flexible, making it even more comfortable. Like the Volta, you get 6 intensities and 6 rhythm patterns.

Patchy Paul's fake eyes
* A fun fact for you: Many caterpillars have fake eye spots so that predators think they're snakes. Patchy Paul has fake eye spots to make us laugh.

caterpillar with fake eyes
Both Volta and Patchy Paul have ergonomic loop handles -- no wrist twisting required, and no problem with lubed fingers. Besides solo use, the long shape and tapered ends make them work between bodies to add clitoral stimulation during partnered penetrative sex.

You can't choose between them? If you like simultaneous clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration and you can budget for both, double your pleasure by using Volta on the clitoris and Patchy Paul vaginally. Wowza. Of course you can do that with any two sex toys that fit your needs -- I'm not saying you have to buy two new products for this experience. But Volta and Patchy Paul work especially well as a team, thanks to the shapes -- they don't get in the way of each other.



If you prefer a smaller vibrator and you don't need the turbo power I prefer, the adorable Cayona or Diva Dolphin might be just right for you.

The shape of Cayona is designed for both penetration and clitoral stimulation via the bump, but the dimensions weren't right for me (we're all different), plus the penetrative part felt too thick, and the vibrations were buzzier than my personal preference. Sure love the color, though!
Size comparison
Cayona & Patchy Paul 

The Diva Dolphin was more comfortable for insertion, tapering gradually. It can take batteries (no charging necessary), or if you prefer rechargeable, upgrade with Fun Factory's hybrid kit. It has 4 speeds and 6 patterns. A good product, but I was spoiled by the Volta.



Cobra Libre II is a popular penis vibrator. It's designed to envelop and vibrate the head of the penis, the most sensitive area for most penis owners. Experiment with how you like to hold it and use it. MacDuff, my penis-owning reviewer, tells me:

I used lube on just my penis at first and although it felt good, it didn't get me to orgasm. The next time, I added a generous amount of lube inside the Cobra Libre, and woo! That made it possible to slightly thrust in and out, all the while being stimulated by vibrations. I discovered that for me, the toy works best held in what seems like an upside down position, as that better follows the upward curve of my erection. Whee! Full orgasm. Knocked me out.


Anything to criticize about Fun Factory sex toys? Only that they come without pouches. Sturdy boxes, yes, but who has room to store boxes? Dear Fun Factory, couldn't you include one of your sweet  Tyvek zipped toybags?

I love the Karim Rashid Toybag, which makes a great gift, by the way. This toybag is so cute and durable that I use it to carry favorite vibrators, lube, and condoms when I travel.


Always use water-based lubricant with Fun Factory products. They can be damaged by oils and creams, so be careful with other substances on your body such as sunscreen, Fun Factory warns.



SPECIAL 10% DISCOUNT
My readers get 10% off all Fun Factory products with the code JOANPRICE. Go to Fun Factory using this link or any of the links in this post. Explore. Choose. Use the coupon code JOANPRICE at the bottom of your shopping cart, before clicking checkout. Fun Factory is so eager to introduce you to the pleasures of their products that you can continue to use this discount code on all future orders until 4/14/2020. (Please note that this coupon cannot be combined with other offers.)


Thank you, Fun Factory, for sending me these joyous sex toys in return for an honest review. Take a look at all their products -- you'll smile at the shapes and colors, and I'm sure you'll find one that's just right for you. And don't forget to use your discount code.

See my past reviews of other Fun Factory favorites:
Volta and Patchy Paul repose
after fun in the shower